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7/17/12 10:44 A

My name is Amy and I have three kids. Two stepkids: one lives us full time and is 18; the other is 13 and wants to come live us. The other child is 7. All three of them are not very thrilled on this new addition. When we told them they were very upset and walked away from my husband and I. The younger two have really opened up and are now ok but the 18 yr old wishes it would just go away.

Around Sept of last year, I decided to lose weight because I was over weight and have 30 lbs up until this point. I have already gained five back because I have no energy at all. The littlest thing zap it. I would really like to gain only what I need to for a healthy baby.

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1/10/12 11:39 A

The update is that Isabella was born April 29th and the boys fell in love instantly! I was so relieved. They take very good care of her and in return she is so in love with her brothers! Her face will absolutely light up when she sees them and vice versa. :)

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1/2/12 2:02 P

good luck to you. I come from a step family and I do also have a half brother, once the baby comes they will fall in love with her and i wouldn't be surprised if she has them wrapped around her little fingers very soon I hope all goes well for you and your family.

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3/20/11 1:38 P

Hello everyone!

I have been a member of BF since I found out I was pregnant, but as I was signing in I saw this team and decided to join.

I am 34 yrs old (about to turn 35 next month) and am expecting a baby girl due May 5th. I remarried about a year ago, but my husband and I have been together for over 8 years. Being my second marriage, at first I just wanted to be really REALLY sure of what we were doing and then...well once we did commit there were just all these obstacles. Now, we are very happy we are having a baby. I have 2 sons from my previous marriage and my husband treats and calls them his own.

My boys are 13 and 9 yrs old. Some of my concerns are that they keep acting like they don't want another sibling, especially a girl. They have step siblings and half siblings from their father's side so I can kind of understand. I've tried to get them involved in a lot of things and I really think my youngest is excited but just doesn't want to admit it because of how aloof big brother is about it. My oldest does not even have an inclination to feel or see the baby move in my tummy. I keep hoping once she gets here that will all change.

I have also explained to them that in no way shape or form do I love this baby or am more excited about her than them. However, I am in a much better place in my life financially and emotionally than I was as they were growing up so it may seem like I provide more for her, but it is all about ability not want. I do think my 13 yr old understands this and even though my 9 yr old says he does, it still seems like it is a competition for him to see who I or even his grandmother loves more no matter how much we reiterate we love them ALL the same.

I'm sorry this is so long, but as I get nearer to my due date I am getting a little more worried about the transition once she is here. Has anyone gone through something similar? Any advice on how you got through it or managed it for the better would be appreciated. :)