ugh pregnancy hormones

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7/22/12 5:05 A

how is twins a planned thing when you are not a rich celebrity? lol

i hadnt had anyone say anything like that to me (yet, i throw in this "yet" because I am waiting to see if I am knocked up again, myself), but when I was about 24 weeks pregnant with my son back in 09, my uncle said to his daughter right in front of me "dont ever do what she did"

but like what exactly did I do wrong? yes, I was 19, but I still dont see what I did was wrong? in the eyes of society, I may be a child, but in the eyes of the law and the eyes of 95% of world cultures, I am a mature grown a$$ woman! I have every right to make love to any one I want, when I want and it shouldnt be anyones business. in most cultures outside of the "Western ideology" would say 19 is really late for having babies anyway. (I dont necessarily support teenage pregnancy, just saying its a cultural thing. our Western cultures say its bad because we are raised to be big babies until we are out of college, but in a lot of other cultures, they are raised to be adults at puberty or a few years later, thus making those teenagers much more prepared for parenting)

and what is this "your life is over" bs? my life isnt over, im just living it differently than you want to live yours! thats why theyre are multiple personality types, because not everyone wants to live the same.

and the whole "your child is gonna suffer because they have no dad" thing really irks me. well maybe if society stopped putting so much pressure on the role of a father in a childs life, that child would have no idea they were "missing" anything, and thus not suffer. anthropologically speaking in the history of mankind, men only stuck around for the first 4 years anyway, and then mutually both parents seperated and found new partners. fathers only returned upon sons entering puberty. tell those annoying fools to look that *stuff* (so wanna say a different word lol) up! and maybe less pressure would mean more involvement from fathers, especially young fathers. im just saying...

people can be dumb! and then super intelligent like me. lol listen to me! haha remember my words, and my years of studying anthropology the next time someone is being dumb. you arent doing anything wrong, your babies are beautiful and perfect, and they are so blessed to have you as a mommy! you are ten times stronger anyway because you can do it on your own. Remember that!

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7/18/12 6:32 A

lol on a funny note i actually did get asked a few times if i had planned on having twins.

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7/18/12 6:28 A

lol thanks. Normally people like that i have no problem tell where to go but this pregnancy i have become very sensitive and soft which is very not like me i am normally not a very emotional person and am very blunt and to the point. But this pregnancy i can't even get to the point of tell people off most of the time i just feel like crying instead and rather than giving them the satisfaction of seeing it bother me like that i have been just walking away. i kinda miss the raging hormonal preggers me lol. But today is a new day can't let negativity ruin that takes to much energy to care about those ignorant people let them think what they will. Until they have walked in my shoes what they have to say doesn't hold much merit with me.

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7/17/12 11:59 P

Not to mention it's not like "you" planned on having TWINS!! Morons!!

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7/17/12 11:58 P

AMEN!!! I totally agree with you, and those people are ignorant fools!!

Children are a gift from God - no matter how many or how few!! And it is NONE of people's business to say ANYTHING to you about it!

You are doing better than I would! I would straight-up tell them to stop being such judgmental a$$holes and to mind their own business!

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7/17/12 11:20 P

Today i had idk how many people go on about how i am so wrong for have two more kids without a father. I just get sick of hearing it sometimes then add the hormones on top of it and it just makes it that much worse. I already have enough guilt over it and with my other children i don't need people making me feel bad also. I just walked away from them today and i don't care if they think i'm rude. Just be happy for me you are not expected to take care of my children you are not the ones who have do it on your own. so stop trying to bring me down.Yes i know i am not married and yes i realize how hard it is going to be i have been through this three times already and yes i know this wasn't planned. That doesn't mean my children have any less of a right to be born and to be loved and to be happy. I am not throwing away my life, I am not stupid i am just a mother who loves her kids and have had the misfortune of not finding the right man to share that with. Some people i tell you.