Just lost my baby

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5/11/12 3:16 P

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm here if you want to talk or vent.

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5/11/12 9:26 A

People do not know how to respond. Last year i lost my baby at 18 weeks. Guess what my mom responded back. "All things happen for a reason". Real supportive mom. Not the response you think a parent would tell there child. Sorry about your loss and just think positive. It is always hard in loosing a life.

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5/11/12 2:43 A

Oh man, sweety I'm so sorry. Of course people mean well but the fact is that you just lost something really important and amazing. People really don't know what to say when it comes to miscarriages, but perhaps you can find some comfort here.

For what it's worth, I'm 34, married, already have 1 kid and wanted another...miscarried last week. And I got the same response - it wasn't meant to be.

I think what people are trying to say is - there are a LOT of miscarriages especially super early on - up to 1/3 of women go through this. BUT that doesn't mean that it hurts any less, both emotionally and physically. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

Hang in there, grieve this loss, and if you need to talk let me know.

xxxxx

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5/11/12 1:17 A

Yesterday morning I woke up at 7:54 a.m. having to pee, when I looked down I saw the blood. I freaked out a little, but I was only 4 and a half weeks pregnant and spotting was supposed to be normal so I brushed it aside. I wasn't prepared for the intense pain that followed just a few minutes later. It felt like my uterus was being ripped in two. I could barely breathe it hurt so bad. There was so much blood. I don't know how to cope with this. I'm so sore it hurts to walk. I had only just found out I was pregnant. I was picturing my life with a baby, already making plans. Now that's all gone. I'm so tired of people saying, it was meant to be. I keep thinking if I wasn't 18 and if I were married, would they say the same thing? I don't know what to do..