Just Wanting To Know It Will Be OK

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11/18/07 6:40 P

When I told my priest that I was expecting, and that the father situation was what it is (very complicated, and basically there is no father around), he said to me:

"Maria, just remember that the terror you have is not from God. God doesn't want you to be scared like this."

Read Psalm 139, and you'll see how special this time is. Maybe this is not ideal, but God is turning a bad situation into a huge blessing.

Fear isn't from God. It's from somewhere else.

I have moments where I can't stop crying and that I get really down, thinking -- what kind of life can I really offer this baby. But, I do know that those fears should have no place in my priority list:

1- healthy, happy, and hopefully one day holy baby
2 - healthy, happy, and hopefully one day (hehe) holy mum.

Peace. It WILL be ok.

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10/2/07 11:31 A

I cried and cried when my children's father let me down during my first pregnancy with my daughter. I gave him t least a dozen chances and kept taking him back, I thought I couldn't do it alone. Last October he got drunk and shot a gun off in the house, went to jail for 23 days and came out a different man. I gave him 1 LAST CHANCE with many rules...AA, get back in church, counceling, parenting classes, couples counceling, and support. He did great for about 6 months, and fell apart agian. I am pregnant with his Son and due in January. I made the decision that he is just not going to change and is not capable of being a grown up not to mention a parent. I prayed about it and God gave me the strength and courage to cut him loose. God is the Father to my children. Have strength and confidence in God and yourself. Not all men can be fathers, no matter how much we want them to be. We as women take care of our children, our homes, and the men in our lives. If men are a burden and not a companion, cut them loose, we have too many other responcibilities. Children can not take care for themselves, men can. Love your children, they love you and you are the WHOLE WORLD to them. Put God first and leave the sorry men to fend for themselves, they did it to us, now be strong and take care of yourselves the way you did when they were around. Now you can do it without them dragging you down!

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9/15/07 8:53 A

you are right, God doesn't give us more than we can handle. sometimes that is the only thought keeping me going. sometimes i don't even have that. i have been crying for the past two years and i just want that to stop. my BD ruined my first pregnancy and the first year of my daughter's life, and he now has ruined this pregancy. but i'm determined to give my kids a beautiful life, and the only thing that has stayed by my side is God's presence.

just keep praying and keep posting.

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8/9/07 10:47 P

You give me such strength by reading this. I, myself, am pregnant for a man who I considered one of my greatest friends. And, he is well..not taking to well to the timing of it all. He has expressed that he doesnt feel for me the way he should to justify having a child with me and he has barely kept in contact to see how we are doing. But, my family and friends have been such great support...and i pray for the fathers of our babies, that He breaks down those walls of fears and softens their hearts giving them compassion and wisdom to make the right decisions for the sake of their children and the mothers. I know that if we all pray for one another, the Lord will hear and He knows whats best for us. Keep your faith strong...and I know He will do great things for us.

In Christ,

Ashlie Lyn

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8/9/07 9:36 P

No matter what, stay true to God. He will never let you down. Pray for your husband. I have been alone for this entire pregnancy and I have a 14 mo. old dd by the same man. I havn't heard a word from him to see our daughter, nor has he acknowledged the fact that I am expecting another of his children. I am still trying to cope with his sudden non existence. I focus all my attention on God and my children. They are all that matters. Stay strong. You are in my prayers.

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8/8/07 11:52 A

Hi,

Everything will be fine. God will not let you down. Everything happens for a reason and I believe the baby is a blessing. I say dont worry about things that you can not change put it in Gods hands and he will work on the heart of your husband. But for now work and focus on yourself and child. I am in the similar situation and it hurts my baby is due November and I have been alone the whole time. Well, the father called me this past weekend to apologize for his behavior and to let me know that he will be in the babys life he was just fustrated with the timing, etc. I excepted his apology and look forward to his support. But my main focus is still ME and my children.
You will be ok...look forward to your blessings.

Edited by: MOMMYTEE4 at: 8/9/2007 (01:15)

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8/8/07 10:25 A

I have a 10 year and me and my husband has been seperated for 2 1/2 years now. Well I am expecting another baby and yes it is for my husband. He is not excepting it to well. He was so involved with our other child birth and now I just feel all alone. I am lonely and very emotional. I know that this baby is a blessing from God and I know that He does not give us more then we can bare but sometimes it gets rough doing this alone. I just want it to be oK. I am tired of crying.