Overwhelmed

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7/7/08 10:22 A

Thanks for the advice. My son loves mickeymouse clubhouse and could sit there and watch it all day but i dont let him. but i thought when the baby is born i should just let him but then i feel bad but im glad someone else does the same thing and im deff. going to look what everyone would like to eat in the frozen section so i wont have to cook big meals every night

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7/7/08 4:41 A

That does sound busy already without a newborn. And I'm sure you remember how much time a newborn takes up.

It sounds terrible but I let my two year old watch a lot more tv now that we have a newborn. It keeps her occupied when I'm nursing or cleaning. I figure once the baby is older we can do more active stuff together. We also moved a lot of toys into her room so she will happily play in there. It keeps the mess contained to her room and I don't have to worry about her handling the baby.

I go grocery shopping at night while my dh watches the kids so I can do it faster. I sometimes send him but I prefer to do it myself.

Your husband should help you out more. There is no reason you ahve to do everything for him. Your room-mate should help out with meals especially the first few weeks. Your brother can vaccuum or just pick up toys. You could even pay him a little bit if necessary.

Buy pre-packaged meals that you can quickly make on busy days. For a cheaper option you could make meals ahead of time and freeze them.

Good luck!

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7/6/08 11:21 P

I buy enough disposable plates, cups, bowls, & utensils for the first 6 weeks. It's one less thing staring me in the face. And I felt like a bad mother for not getting the household things done but doing housework isn't part of being a mother. Once I focused on my children's needs instead it was lot less stressful. My DH would come home from work and cook dinner and help me get the kids in bed. You probably need to scale everything back until baby is at least 6 weeks old. Especially if you end up with a c-section.

You will probably not get everything done around the house. You need to figure out the minimum you have to do. Like getting the laundry washed and dryed, but it might not get folded or put away.

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7/6/08 11:08 P

And i forgot to add that most ppl will prolly tell me to let all the cleaning go but for me that drives me crazy or deppressed to have a messy home with a sink full of dishes and i dont know how not to let that bother me???

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7/6/08 11:06 P

I am 21 and have a 2 yearold son and will be giving birth in less then a month. I have a husband that i do everything for and also cook dinner for our roommate downstairs and take care of my 10 year old brother from 6-6 everyday and my 6 yearold cousin every tuesday and Friday. I cook everyone there breakfast lunch and dinner I do the laundry and dishes and vaccuming and any other cleaning like bathrooms and linens i do all the grocery shopping and Im getting frustrated b/c i dont know how im going to manage all this with a newborn and even if i can manage it i doubt i will be very happy doing it all. Advice on how ppl handle multiple things and do it with the least amount of stress???