Unexpected feelings

Unexpected feelings blog

I am ridiculously happy that we're pregnant. I'm in my 6th week, and I've been following all the emails detailing how the baby is developing, and things to expect, and things to consider. My DH is excited as well, and we can't wait to meet our little one.

As I mentioned in my last blog post, we got pregnant absurdly easily. I'm 37. I'd been on birth control for years. And yet, we got pregnant 2 or 3 weeks after I went off the Pill. It took us both by surprise - based on all the reading we'd been doing, we figured we'd have some good news in around 6 months or so. Surprise! :D

Over the past couple of days, amidst all the happy feelings, I've been feeling guilty. Why was it so easy for me? My sister had to have surgery (for a fibroid, I think) before she was able to conceive. Other friends of ours used fertility treatments to be able to conceive. I have another friend who is doing a great job losing weight and getting healthy, but I also know they've been trying to conceive for more than a year with no luck.

So, I feel guilty. Why did I have it so easy, and not them? I'm worried about someone asking me, in their presence, how long we'd been trying. Do I announce it only took a few weeks? Do I keep it to myself? I love my friends and my sister, and I don't want to hurt them. I really don't know how to approach the situation.
5.2.2012

Member Comments About this Blog Entry

	"Congrats on your pregnancy! I hope you've been feeling well so far. I've had some feelings like yours - on the pill for over 10yrs, cysts and fibroids, not even sure if I could get pregnant - and then on the second try success. There are a lot of women at work who have had a lot of problems, so I was keeping it quiet and not saying much, even when I got past the first trimester. I think if you're respectful of those who are trying, and simply happy but not 'in your face gushing' about you..." -- SISSYD33

	"Congrats! Wishing you the best and cant wait to hear more!" -- HC2007

	"Congrats on your pregnancy! Infertility can be such a hard subject. I would suggest keeping it to yourself or saying something really general in front of the people you know it may hurt. I think as long as your sensitive to them and open the lies of communication if they want to talk to you about it then your doing the right thing! I feel the same way although unluckily we have had 2 miscarriages as well - so I get pregnant really easy but the baby doesn't always stick. I hope and pray for..." -- KASONSMOMMA82