When we were pregnant with our first, we didn't find out the sex. But we had the ultrasound tech jot the sex down and seal it in an envelope, in case my husband decided he wanted to find out while keeping it a surprise from me or we could later decide if both of us would find out.
For Valentines day - I gave him the option of finding out and he decided to keep it a suprise. But we made a deal we'd find out the sex with our second baby.
So I enjoyed being surprised so much, that I was hoping he would too and change his mind on finding out with our second. When we got pregnant this time, I was able to somehow convince him that it could be fun for him to find out and keep it a surprise from me. But in order to convince him of this deal - I told him he could tell whomever he wanted to, it would be his connection with baby I did not have and he would get to have this special thing he could share with others. I also told him that he and everyone could go back and forth on the sex - so if they accidentally slipped - I wouldn't be able to figure it out. And I told him that if at anytime he wanted me to know he could tell me, because I knew I'd be finding out anyways. And that if he wanted to tell me he could make something special of it as finding out from him would be better than finding out from the ultrasound tech - in my mind. (and later I found out that that would be very true).
So he decided - fine - I'll play this game of yours. So for the last 9 wks I have not known the sex of the baby. He has been very good about keeping it in. And I swear I thought it was a boy - I had many reasons I thought so. I told him and everyone else so, because I thought well if its not a surprise I should just tell people what I thought it might be.
Well I was wrong - LOL, so I guess I was surprised after all!!
Caden and I went on a playdate and came home to a present sitting on the buffet with a card. He said 'Someone dropped something off for you.' So I went over to it and opened up the card. the front said 'Pink or Blue' and written inside was 'Its up to you, but open up the box if you want to find out the sex of our baby.'
I read it, set the card down and walked away - pondering if I should open it. I was perfectly content on not finding out, but at the same time - he put so much thought into it, and he really wanted to share the news with us. When I walked away he seemed disappointed. So I said to Caden - "what do you think Caden, do you want to find out if the baby is a boy or a girl? If we open up this present we can find out.' And of course Caden wanted to open the present and find out.
It was very sweet finding out this way. I'm glad that DH was the one to let us know and he got to make it special. I'm also glad that he got to keep it a surprise from me for a little while and have the special news to share with others including Caden and I. I think it made things very special about this pregnancy, and now we've got a great little story and pictures to add to the baby book.