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CATHY_T
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11/14/10 2:43 P


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Pretty similar except mine were a little (!) shorter and I went all-natural. I was born at 7.30 am after my mother had a 12-hour labor. She tried pethedine but it made her sick, although it allowed her to sleep a little.

I decided I didn't want to be sick, so I had a strict "no pethedine" plan. In the event, my first was 5 weeks early and the doctor told me my uterus was "only a little irritable". Start to finish was 13 hours but active labour only about four (recorded on my notes as 2hrs 7 mins). With my second I had a homebirth (and plan to with #3 unless it's twins, when I guess I'll *have* to go to hospital) but same plan except active labor was, I estimate, around 90 minutes. I napped on and off all night.

Both my boys were born around 6.30am after I was contracting all night. Both times I had exactly 4 and a half pushing contractions.

My "plan" is always to start labor after breakfast and have the baby by teatime, but no joy yet - maybe all-night labors run in my family!

Edited by: CATHY_T at: 11/14/2010 (14:44)

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SOPHIE_BLUE
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So I delivered my baby 2 weeks ago and my labor wasn't similar to my mom's. Start to finish, it took about 12 hours instead of her 5. It did progress very quickly at the end - I went from 7cm to pushing out the baby in only half-hour.

Thanks to everyone for your responses - very interesting to read the stories but the end it doesn't seem like there is much to my mom's claim that being built like her would produce a similar labor.

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NEW_MOMMY0729
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9/17/10 4:39 P


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The only thing about my labor that was similar to my mom's was that my water did break. However, I was too large to descend into the birth canal so she ended up having a c-section. They realized this early on and she did not labor very long before they took her in for the surgery.
For me, I ended up having contractions for about a day before our daughter was born and delivered vaginally. I also progressed very quickly (was admitted to the hospital for an induction because of low fluid at 3pm and by 4pm was dilated enough they didn't induce...she was born at 10pm). So no...nothing like my mom's at all...


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I'm pregnant with my first, but it would be awesome if I had labor like my mother's. With all three births, she progressed quickly and delivered without intervention. My goal is to have an natural, unmedicated childbirth, so her experience is really heartening if it has any affect on me.


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9/11/10 11:58 A


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In some ways my labor (all 4 kids) has been exactly like my Mom's...in other ways it's been completely different.For example: my Mom has had her water break but her contractions didn't start without Pitocin. She also never dilated past a couple of cm...I didn't dilate past 2 1/2 - 3 cm with my first until after I had an epidural. I keep dilating a bit more with each kid, but #4 didn't get past 6 cm without serious pain meds. I know that I instinctively clench up when I'm in pain, and I think that has a lot to do with it. If I can feel the contractions at any level much beyond stubbing my toe I'll have a problem relaxing enough to dilate. (I've had vaginal delivery with every kid so it is possible to get around this problem)

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9/9/10 11:40 A


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I think labor can be partly genetic. Sensitivity to hormones, how those hormones are used and produced, how our bodies respond to hormones has a genetic component.

I think enviroment plays the biggest role though. Being relaxed, at home, in a hospital, being tense, being an anxious person, having an epi, having interventions, what you do during labor, and a bunch of other things can effect how long and how painful labor is for a woman. You cant forget the perception of pain and labor also. Some women handle labor better than others and if your mom was one to handle the contractions with ease and you are not then your labors will be described as much more painful.

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9/9/10 12:18 A


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Fortunately, my labor was similar to my mothers. I was born 3 weeks early after 6 hours of labor. I weighed 6lbs 2oz.

My daughter was born at exactly 39 weeks after 4 and a half hours of labor and only half an hour of pushing. She weighed 7lbs 5 oz

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definitly different; but my mom was 20 and I was 36. Unfortuately, I got the short end of the stick - Mom had very quick, easy (almost too fast) labors. My little man took his time and I wound up with a c-section when my contractions petered out (maybe he was too big at 9 lbs 9oz)


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8/30/10 9:44 A


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Haven't given birth just yet, but I'm hoping it's nothing like my mom having me. 17.5 hours after having been induced (I was at 42 weeks and still didn't want to come out).

Of course unlike mom I want to try and keep mine as natural as possible, so we'll see how that goes ^_^


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8/27/10 1:43 P



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I would say if you're just comparing to your mom's it could be hit or miss, because no two pregnancies are alike. However, my grandmother and my mom's sister and my mom all had excellent labor and mine was fortunately the same. Unfortunately my little guy had his head turned the wrong way, so even though labor was a breeze, I was pushing for two and half hours to get him to turn a little. He still came out a little sideways.

My aunt, mom, and grandmother were all able to give birth easily and naturally with no labor meds. My aunt said you have a little back pain and a few period cramps and then you go to the hospital and have a baby. I was worried becuase I've had some really horrible period cramps before, but I would say the labor pains were much easier to handle than bad menstrual cramps.

I gave birth at exactly 39 weeks to a 8lb 2 oz baby boy, 20.5 inches long. I first recognized "labor" just after midnight on Friday and had him at 6:32pm, started pushing at 4pm, but felt like pushing earlier, there was a little lip of cervix that hadn't dilated, probably due to him being turned to face the wrong direction. No pain meds or IVs for me, though.

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VOGELTJE
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8/19/10 9:32 P


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My mom and I are very similar in terms of build, health, and medical history, however, our labors with our first children were very different.

My mother delivered my brother at just over 36 weeks after not more than 10 hours of active labor.

I was induced at 42+ weeks, labored hard for 12+ hours, pushed for 4+ hours, and ended up having a C-section 36 hours after the induction started b/c my midwife couldn't get Jo unstuck and I was too exhausted to continue trying.

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8/19/10 12:58 P


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My aunt had a breach (bum first) baby in 1982. She was in so much pain that she wanted a c-section but they made her keep trying and she did give birth naturally. Her 2nd child was 3 weeks overdue and was born naturally at over 10lbs. She knew she was overdue but the doctors wouldn't listen to her. Her 3rd and 4th children came very quickly.

Nowadays she would have had c-sections for her first 2 and probably not given a chance to vbac her next 2.

I think we have to remember that your mother's and your labours may have naturally taken the same course but if there were interventions or illnesses (inducing, water breaking, gestational diabetes, pre-e etc) it will change the labour length and outcome.


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8/19/10 12:41 P


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GUERILLA, I was feet first, born vaginally in 1981, when CS were then the norm for any breech presentation. She REFUSED a CS.

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8/19/10 10:30 A


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My mom had me almost 3 weeks early, her water broke. She was given pitocin and had a huge episiotomy, because I came butt first!

My labor was nothing like hers. I went 8 days post-date, it lasted 7 hours, meds-free. Baby was head down.


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My mom and I have a 1/2" difference in height and similar body structures, but her labor with me resulted in a c-section (failure to progress) after 36 hours of hard active labor, and I had a 22 hour labor (over half of which was active and hard) and 15 minutes of pushing before my son was born without interventions. I was born 39w6d 20", 8lbs; D was born 38w3d 21-1/2", 7lbs8oz.


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Mine was pretty much the opposite of my moms (except for the fact that we were both induced with our second- though not for the same reasons).

I was born after 2-21/2 hours of labor beginning with her water breaking. I was 4 1/2 pounds. I was also 3 days early.

My first was born 12 days later, after 28 hours of labor. He was just about 8 1/2 pounds.

Her second was born after less than 6 hours (I think) of induced labor, about 1 week before her due date. My sister was just over 5 pounds.

My second was induced 8 days late, after 17 hours of induced labor and he was just about 9 1/2 pounds!

Before my first baby, I expected to be very similar to my mom and stopped thinking that after it was completely the opposite!


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My labors were nothing like my moms- but they were similar to the labors of my husband's family, even though we are built very differently.


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MUM2AYLA
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8/8/10 8:02 A


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I already posted on this thread but i was talking to my mum about this theory today and noticed even more simalarities. both our labours started at the same time 1am and lasted very similar times. neither of us tore or needed stitches. we both were up and walking straight after and both had girls. if you asked us both to describe our labours you could pretty much say they were exactly the same.

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First of all my mother and I are built fairly similar, only I'm a good 6 inches taller. She was in labor with me for 36 hours but started labor on her own. My labor was only about 8.5 hrs but I had to be induced. As far as pain I really don't know, my mom had an epidural but mine never would take so I had to go natural. I am an only child and I am only now ttc so I have nothing to compare past the 1st one.


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MUM2AYLA
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i think i made myself beleive that i would have a similar experience to my mum so i did. my mum and i had very normal labours. her fist was 8 hours exactly and my first was 7.5 hours. neither of us had an epidural and both of us tried gas and vomited. im hoping my consecutive labours are the same as hers too because each time they halve so second baby was 4 hours, third was 2 hours and fourth was 50 mins.

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8/4/10 11:55 P


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My mom tells me that she was built like me (no "hips" to speak of) until she got pregnant with her second child. Her labors with the first two of her three were short and easy, and the last one had to be induced so it wasn't as short or easy for her. That said, she also had time to get an epidural with all three of us.

With Kidlet, my labor was less than three hours, start to finish. It was also so easy that I didn't feel the first contractions and my water had broken before I realized that I was in labor at all. I got to the doctor, who commented on how much hair my son had and promptly called for an ambulance. Because he was already crowning, there was no time for an epidural (I hadn't wanted one anyway). The pain still wasn't all that bad, and the worst part of the whole process was the episiotomy.


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Not even close. My mom had me, her first, in 6 hours all natural. She had a very fast intense labor. My first brother was breech and a c-section, my next brother was a VBAC but got stuck on the way out(10lbs)so he was a repeat c-section in the end. Her births weren't even similar.

Both of mine were posterior babies. The first was induced 14 hours after my water broke, 16 hours of pitocin. The second labor started on it's own but still took about 48 hours, 20 hours of hard labor.

Vicky- My second labor was like your mom's. It sucked! I was having hard painful contractions and was sent home because they weren't doing a darn thing. It wasn't the end of the world but it certainly wasn't the easy second labor everyone told me I would have.

Edited by: HOPE2B at: 8/3/2010 (02:05)


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This is so funny I was thinking about it the other day my mom and I had the EXACT stuff happen to us! We were both induced a week early due to medical problems and she labored for 16 hours and I went for 16.5 hours and we both ended in a c-section due to swelling on the babies head. I never had the baby drop and she didn't either. She had my oldest brother at 1 am (not sure of exact time) and Jax came at 2:16. And for me and my other brother she had planned c-sections and I plan on the same :) I don't think that it is genetic though I just had a weird experience because my grandmother had all 9 of her children natural.


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GOSH! I hope mine is nothing like my mothers!
She started having contractions, went to the hospital and they sent her home. The next day- same thing. Finally on day number 3 she was dialating and they admitted her, but she was in active labor for 21 hours before I was born!

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Mine was VERY different from my mother's.
And as far as short woman having longer deliveries. . . .I disagree.
I'm 4'8" (can't get much shorter) and my two labors were 2hrs and 4 hrs.


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I meant not one CTX BEFORE my first one at 4:54! OOPS!

I had back labor with my 2 youngest. Horrible horrible back labor. Thanks to short labors I didn't have to deal with it very long!

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