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	"I was due to have my baby Aug 16th, hence the "nickname" for babyfit. Unfortunately we miscarried right before Christmas at 6 weeks. I know I wasn't that far along but we have been trying since April of 2010 and started infertility stuff in August 2011. We were over the moon and shocked when the stick actually said pregnant. Our first ultrasound to hear the baby was scheduled for the Wednesday before Christmas. But we lost him/her before we even got to that appt. We are back on track with our treatment but I'm very apprehensive and my DH is too, that the next one will work out okay. I have two children already 13 and 18. But so desperately want this one with my husband (the girls are from a previous marriage). The one good thing we are taking away from this whole experience is that it can happen. It happened once it can happen again." -- AUGGYBABY2012 - 2/8/2012 10:57:58 AM

	"When i found out i was pregnant,i went to the doctor,he could not see a heart beat on the ultra sound ,we waited for 7 weeks,suddenly one morning i started bleeding,but was not much,went to the doctor gave me a set pill,2 days past.Suddenly the 3rd day early in the morning,i started bleeding so much,blood like liver was coming out,i was rushed to hopsital and put on a drip,same day the doctor said i had a miscarriage and removed it,i was so sad,i wanted the baby so bad,but i am so scared to fall pregnant again,what if the same thing happens again.." -- ASKIMMUST - 3/11/2011 6:02:37 AM

	"Here is an article that might help - Coping with Pregnancy Loss. You might also want to connect with other mothers HERE" -- TANYA_BABYFIT - 2/4/2011 9:36:44 AM

	"I was suppose to be 12 weeks pregnant and had a Dr. appt to hear my baby's heart beat this past Tuesday. Tuesday started out normal, I went to wk and was on cloud 9 about the fact that I'd being hearing my baby's heartbeat. I went to the bathroom, feeling completely normal, but found that I was lightly bleeding. I called the Dr who decided to see me early. He couldn't find a heartbeat. He sent me for an ultrasound and still no heartbeat. It is now Thursday and I am still so devastated. It was suppose to be our first baby. The doctor preformed a D&C today and I have soooo much guilt over having the procedure instead of miscarrying naturally. I feel like I took the easy way out. There were lots of factors that made me choose to get the procedure; including the fact that it would speed recovery and I might be able to start trying again in as little as a month. I'm not sure if I will be ready to try again in a month. Thankfully my husband has been by my side for the whole thing! He is absolutely amazing. And my employer has been incredibly supportive. I just can't move past the fact that I left someone suck my baby out! How awful is that! I never got to see, hold, or bury my baby! I can't deal with that. It doesn't feel right and I can't move on! Any advice?" -- LAFREDERICK - 2/3/2011 5:37:48 PM

	"My husband and I experienced our first miscarriage two days ago. Although I too did not have the flooding kind of bleeding or cramping that is typically in a miscarriage, my hormone levels are next to nothing (24). We have been doing our best to cope with this loss. We couldn't believe it was happening to us. We have had two pregnancies previous to this that were perfect. I cry most times I talk to someone about it and anytime that I think about things like when our baby was due. Thank the Lord that I have a wonderful group of friends and family that can minister to me through this difficult time. And of course, my amazing husband has been so strong for the both of those, even though I know he is dying inside. He is a man that I had only seen cry twice during the seven years we have been together and this loss made it the third time I've seen him cry. Although this has been a horrible experience for us and our family, I know that we will be rewarded for having gone through this. I know that one day my husband and I will be reunited with our little baby in Heaven. For a while all I could think was "why did this happen?" I've come to realize that this experience has a purpose, like all things that happen. Because of our heartbreak now, we will be able to help someone else in the future. Our loss is not in vain. There will come a day when someone else going through this same ordeal will need comfort and encouragement and, God willing, we will be there to help them through their heartache. Praise God for helping us through the loss of our baby and for giving us the hope to continue on to bring Him glory. For the Lord's word says, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future." This is the Lord's promise to me and to you if we pursue Him. Because of this, I find hope and peace in these difficult times." -- COURTVILLE - 4/15/2010 6:04:57 PM

	"Just went through a miscarriage that lasted about 4 weeks from the start of the spotting till it finally stopped. Thats four weeks of unknowing...of listening to everyone tell me it will be OK... to "it happened to them and their baby is fine." I had no major pain, no gush of bleeding...no "it happened today" sort of situation. Just a long slow agonizing process. It took me about a month now, and I finally came back to this site. I think the hardest part is seeing all the baby emails I got.. the "you are now 10 weeks!" (ugggg).... and all the cool information that has begun arriving in the mail. It makes me burst into tears with each new item. I know it will get easier... in time. " -- OMADARLYN - 2/8/2010 10:32:12 AM

	"2 days b4 my 1st appt i started spotting, worried i might be miscarring i called my mid wife hot line they told me not to worry, it was normal, keep them posted if anything change i called them 2 days in a row worried. that wed i went in 4 my 1st appt. and no heart beat. i new i had lost my 1st baby. the hardest part for me was seeing the baby on the ultra sound. no heart beat. it was like i was in another world, once i left and my husband took me to eat. it had finally sunk in and everything made me cry. thoughts, people i new, talking , texting, everything so much pain.. thur i officially miscarried. pain lots of pain did everything, pain killers, hot towel u name it... thanx to a loving husband by my side and friends and family i am finding my way through it all....once i am all better will deffinaltley give it another try. just taking each day one at a time. what a rollercoaster ride though" -- ANGELSTARZ - 2/1/2010 8:55:24 PM

	"Supposed to be 11 weeks but just saw the baby and there was no heart beat. No idea what to expect now. I can't even figure out how to get off the pregnancy off this site. There should be an option for if this kinda thing happens you can just easily remove the pregnancy off the site. Sad and flustered. I feel blessed to have had a healthy normal pregnancy with my first child who will be 2 next week." -- CAYISLANDNEWMOM - 1/11/2010 6:25:49 PM

	"I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant with my second baby in September and was SOOO excited. I had a perfect pregnancy with my son 2 years ago and we had been trying for several months to get pregnant again (it took a year to get pregnant the first time!). I didn't know I was preggo because I had a period at the end of August... so even though I FELT pregnant, I figured I wasn't. At my first prenatal appt I was having a hard time concentrating and was having the most AWFUL cramping I've ever had (felt like I was in labor again). I kept telling the nurse "I don't remember having cramps like this" and she just kept reassuring me by saying "every pregnancy is different... trust me... she wants to be here! This baby WANTS to live!" (she said she was guessing I was going to have a girl). I left her office to go give blood and urine for tests and went i went to the bathroom there was just SOOOO much blood. I immediately became hysterical in tears and found a nurse. I was sent to the closest hospital where they confirmed I was miscarrying. I was so devastated. I wanted that baby so much and it just wasn't meant to be. I had a hard time dealing with the emotional aspect of the loss. We named the baby Aidan Angel (a unisex name we both could agree on) and had a balloon release with messages on the balloons with just the three of us. Now we are trying again and I must say that I'm extremely anxious about it. I'm so worried it will happen again. I just keep trying to stay positive about it and hope that everything will work out, God willing. I hope that all of you who shared your stories and have gone through the same thing are able to get past this hurdle and have a beautiful little blessing of your own. You're not alone! :-)" -- KARPRATT - 1/11/2010 11:24:21 AM

	"I just found out today that I have miscarried but never passed the baby. I should have been 14 weeks but they couldn't find the heartbeat at my check up and they did a quick sonygram to try to find it and they couldn't and the baby wasn't moving. It was only measuring 11 weeks along. I am going through a rollercoaster of emotions right now and have to go back on Mon to decide what to do, to hear my options. They may have to go in and take it out surgically. My husband is great and I am blessed to have him help me through. God has a plan and we look forward to trying again sometime. I think it did help us realize how much we do want a child. These kinds of situations can be an opportunity to reley on each other and grow a marriage stronger though the tough time." -- STACENACE - 11/25/2009 10:08:39 PM

	"I found out on Friday that I was 4 weeks pregnant, and by Monday found out my hormone levels had dropped back down. I had heavy bleeding over the weekend, but I had been bleeding the entire time, so I didn't think anything of it. It was our first pregnancy, and I was so excited. It was so hard to tell my Mom. I'm terrified of it happening again. It seems so daunting." -- STEPHIEHOBBS83 - 11/10/2009 10:05:51 AM

	"i had cramping and bleeding. i knew i was miscarrying when i went to the restroom and saw large clots. they estimated me being about 6 weeks. i have fertility problems and thought i couldn't even get pregnant so when we found out we were expecting, we were so happy. now to have lost that baby, i feel so sad. and hopeless" -- NIKIMARTIN - 10/29/2009 4:06:27 PM

	"I had my 6 week apt. last monday and i knew on Sunday that something was wrong. I was cramping and spotting brown. WHen I woke up monday i was bleeding a little more. Got to my drs and told her, when I went for my ultrasound they told me there had been progression after 5 weeks and I was in the middle of a miscarriage. I couldn't believe it. So empty inside, hoping that they were wrong. I did have great support from my Boyfriend, it was going to be our first. I want to try again right now, but they said that I had to wait 3 months. I just pray that next time this won't happen :(" -- DANCINGMOM16 - 7/30/2009 10:20:47 PM

	"I miscarried just over 24 hours ago. I am doing my best to cope with it. My husband is the best husband in the whole world. He is so very supportive and we talk about everything. I was only 8-1/2 weeks along and had just seen the midwife 2 days prior for my bloodwork. I started spotting brown later that day and continued to do so until I woke up to go the bathroom and saw bright red blood everywhere. I did not have any cramping whatsoever, just a lot of blood. My husband and I were so upset. We are still waiting to hear back from my OB about my follow-up. We had so many complications when we went to the ER. I am still upset over the treatment I recieved but we are happy that I am okay. This was the most horrible experience I have ever had. My husband and I are going to try again in 3 months and that is helping us keep our focus on the important things." -- RACHROAR - 4/17/2009 11:00:40 AM

	"I was supposed to have my baby born this coming month of August. I concieved last November, 2008. when the doctor made a trans V on me last December, the baby turned out to be just in 5 weeks, so they asked me to come back on January for another prenatal but when I went back, the baby was still in 5th week...all my happiness and my dreams went black when the doctor said that the baby stopped growing and that It would come out anytime around january and it did...it was so hard for me and my husband...there was no day and even until now that I don't cry...I cry a lot...but the good news is that i can always get pregnant but not in six months after that...I'm still waiting for the day that I'll be ready again..." -- VELLALO - 3/17/2009 7:11:11 PM

	"I finally went to the doctor's office this morning to confirm that I was pregnant. The test was positive and I was elated. I went to my fiancé's work and told him the news in my excitement. A few hours later, while at work, I experience intense cramping in my uterus. I excuse myself to the bathroom and discover blood. It's been on-going for 2 hours now...I fear it's a miscarriage. I have an ultrasound scheduled for the next couple of days....but this is leaving such an empty feeling in my heart. Pray for me and my fiancé...." -- ISABELLE123 - 3/6/2009 8:09:46 PM

	"I just had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy last week and am just now feeling something other than anger. I was 8 weeks along. Yesterday was supposed to be our first prenatal appointment (I was a high risk pregnancy and needed a specialist who was not available until then) and it was very difficult coping with retuning to work, filling out disability forms and making follow up appointments for bloodwork to check my hormone levels when I was supposed to be at the doctor's office hearing my baby's heartbeat for the first time and perhaps even seeing him/her on a sonogram. There is so much anxiety that comes with this: should we try again, how will this continue to affect me, will my family and friends get sick of hearing me talk about this (although I've just started to confide in them), if I do get pregnant again how will it turn out? I know that it's way too soon to really think about trying again and I try not to think about it too much. But I'm so ambivalent about it. I'm just grateful I am able to spill on this site." -- TONIAG - 11/7/2008 12:54:01 PM

	"Thank you for this article. I could not have found it at a better time. After 3 miscarriages this year it has been hard coping. I feel ready to give up on trying to have another baby ever again. Reading this article made me realize that there are alternatives. Thank you!" -- SUGAMOMMA - 7/30/2007 10:46:53 PM
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