I am only posting to this because the thread is so old and what if there are others in my situation?
I tried bf with #1. Delivery was rather traumatic (failure to progress and had to have a C-section). I tried and after 24 hrs, our son was in the NIC unit due to dehydration. So, he was given formula and the lactation specialist camped out in my room. I pumped - for two weeks AFTER coming home, and milk never came in.
So now we are 7 weeks away from #2 arriving, and I am not even going to try bf. Dr. says it is pretty likely that my body will behave (or rather misbehave) as it did with #1. #1 is a happy, healthy, three-year-old son who will have no trouble learning to read....and I expect the same for his coming brother.
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9/15/06 9:08 P
No one had made me feel bad yet. I actually feel bad telling people because I always expect them to get on me and make me feel like sh*t for not BFing. Everyone's been really supportive so far.
It is good to know there are others going through the same thing.
DD
9-3-06
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Hannah
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9/15/06 8:54 P
It's good to know I'm not the only one not breastfeeding. I wasnt able to try to breastfeed because I was on antibotics and by the time I was off them she was use to the bottle. People do try to make me feel bad but I made the right decision that was best for my baby. My first was bottle feed also and she was a healthy happy baby.
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CILLILIB
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9/15/06 8:45 P
Thanks everyone. I feel a lot better after listening to what you are going through. I agree. There is SUCH a push right now to breastfeed, that it puts so much pressure on new mommies... you shouldn't be made to feel guilty for choosing something that is right for both you and your baby.
Do they really sleep longer when they are bottlefed?
-Aimee
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9/15/06 6:42 P
I'm not breastfeeding. The nurse's @ the hosp tried to make me feel like a fellon and a wimp becuz of it, but I have my reasons...and at 2 wks, he's already gained a pound, so we're both doing well with bottles.
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BECKYJ20
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9/15/06 1:51 P
I am so glad to hear that Im not the only one giving up. Everyone was starting to make me feel bad because Im not going to bf anymore. But I have to do whats right for me and my son. We both just got way to fustrated with the bfing. I was on the verge of a meltdown. Since we started the formula we are both a lot happier and thats all that matters.
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9/15/06 11:20 A
I gave up... it took like 6 days for the milk to come in and I just had an anxiety melt down because I just wasn't even enjoying having the baby with all the stress it was making me have.
I am doing bottles now. I feel much better, plus the fact that my breasts were so big that there was no bra in my size and all I could do was sit in my robe. And I couldn't hold her close cause they were getting in the way.
Just do what you think will make you happy. I just know it made me feel a whole lot better.
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Hannah
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9/15/06 10:21 A
At the beginning of my pregnancy, I was so for bfing.... Then as time got closer to due date, I started to change my mind. At the hospital, I told them I was going to do both... bottle and boob. When the time actually came, I decided to just bottle feed. I didn't even try. Now, almost 2 weeks later, I feel so bad that I am not bfing my daughter, but it's too late. Then I hear the stories of the bleeding nipples, sore cracked nipples, feedings every two hours... AHHHH. I feel that there is no happy medium. The reason I choose not to bf was because my chest was huge coming into pregnancy, increased in size as my pregnancy continued, and when my milk came in, I could barely see my toes over my chest. I couldn't handle the thought of not having my large "regular" size boobs back. Does anyone else feel guilty for not bf because they choose not to?
CILLILIB
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9/15/06 12:32 A
I CAN'T breatfeed and I feel bad about it. I know that it is healthier for mom and baby and I was really looking forward to breastfeeding my son... but I can't b/c I have an antibody that can attack him, especially his heart, so my doctors say that it is not worth the risk. But I feel bad, like this makes me a bad mommy. *sigh* Ah, preggy emotions.
Beckyj20 and Sarahduby, have you tried consulting a lactation consultant? If bfing is not working, than it's is not working.. but just wondered if you had tried that? My hospital makes a big deal about the bfing classes and the consultants and such... so that popped into my mind.
-Aimee
Alexander David
born 9/24/06 at 5:37am
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21 inches long
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9/15/06 12:24 A
I am about there with you Becky....I supplement too and am getting tired of just speding my time pupming ALL THETIME and feeding. I want more time with my son w/out the pressure.
Thanks for your response in my thread. I have the exact same issues. I am glad I am not the only one about to give up.
On a good note, formula feeding will give you more sleep at night/longer breaks in feeding! I have been formula feeding at night for that advantage and BFing in the day....(well, pumping and bottlefeeding) he has gotten so lazy he won't even latch to the one breast I can feed on. We both just end up crying after 20 min.
I am so ready to quit!
-Sarah-
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BECKYJ20
Posts: 2150
9/14/06 11:35 P
Its been a week and Im still kinda trying to breastfeed. Its been a long struggle and no progress. Ive been supplementing with formula. We are thinking about just giving up on the breastfeeding. I was just wondering if anyone else was not going to breastfeed too?
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DS Leland James Oct 11, 2008
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