Coming from a family with four generations of men having the same name, it gets super confusing! And in the event of a death (great grandfather or grandfather) everyone assumes your dad or brother died...
For my son, I used DH middle name (which his family calls him) as DS middle name (but we call him by his first name). Passed on the name, but don't have the confusion.
KEOMOMMY
Posts: 29
3/12/12 5:39 P
I'm not sure how to handle the situation but I really disagree with naming boys (or girls) the same as their parents. Let them be their own person.
MOMMY.BRITT
Posts: 43
3/11/12 10:48 P
I Don't know how much help this is but my older brother is named after my dad, who is named after his dad!
They all three have a legal name of Robert. However, my grandpa went my Bob, my dad is known as Rob, and my brother has kept his name as Robbie and i doubt he will change that!
So if it's possible maybe just honor your husband wishes but find a nickname or alternative name you like to call him? I hope that somewhat helps??
SREYNOLDS43574
Posts: 646
2/26/12 6:23 P
I know this is an older post and you may have had your child already and my point would be completely moot but... While sharing a name with their son might be a source of pride for a father there can be complications that arise from it. I spent 10yrs in finance and I've seen many times where sharing a name with your father or son has caused problems. I've seen father's credit reports show up on the son's and vice versa and if one or the other had credit issues it caused problems for the other. It can be difficult to straighten out. And all because they share the same name. It's just something to keep in mind when considering naming your son after his father. It's more than just who is going to be called what that needs to be considered. There are future issues that need to be considered.
---M2C---
Posts: 4997
12/23/11 2:39 P
Another idea is to use a variation of your husband's name.
James - can be Jameson. Jeff can be Jefferson.
My daughter is named after DH and I, in that she has our middle names for her first and middle name. Alana is just the female version of Alan. However we pronounce it Uh-La-nuh(La like Fa-la-la-la-la-la not like the lan in Alan)
ALYSPEDERSON
Posts: 4
12/23/11 11:27 A
I wouldn't mind having my son named after my husband, however, he wants to name our first son Timothy, so he can call him little timmy. I can't get over it...
HERTY18
Posts: 106
12/13/11 3:47 P
I had always wanted to name a son after my husband even before I was married. When we found out we were having twin boys I was worried I wouldn't be able to do that. However, we came up with a great solution. The first boy would be daddy's little junior (Michael Paul Jr.)and the second boy would have one uncle's first name and another uncle's middle name ( Matthew Tennyson). Ironically, Mikey looks like his uncles and Matty looks just like his daddy.
Everyone calls my husband Mike and our son Mikey. Furthermore, everyone calls my brother Matt and my other son Matty (or Matthew when he misbehaves). The boys are two and a half and we haven't had any problems with the names yet.
If your husband really wants a junior maybe you should consider it. Carrying on a name is a form of pride in your family's lineage.
We already have a Michael and Matthew, what should our next little monkey be?
YUNA3030
Posts: 426
12/5/11 12:17 P
If our baby turns out to be a boy, he will sort of be named after my husband. It was actually my idea. My husband's name is William Alan, but he goes by Will. I would want to name our boy Liam Alan. I thought it would be fun to have Will and Liam and I like the name Liam anyway, so it works.
For a girl, I plan on naming her London Marie. Marie is a common middle name in both our families.
DH gave up his baby naming rights when all he suggested was Thor, Romulus, and Brutus.
FRESH.AIR
Posts: 476
11/30/11 11:05 P
I like the idea of using father's first name as a middle name, or using the first name as a first name, but calling him the middle name.
Personally, I won't name one of our sons after my husband (even though I love my husband lots and lots and lots!). I just figure my kids are already getting his last name...no need to duplicate EVERYTHING!
Another reason (that is personal for me!) that I wouldn't do it is that I once dated this guy with the same name as his dad. And so I'd call and ask for Joe and his dad would come on instead (and get a big chuckle). Ho, ho, ho. So annoying.
The other thing I've found funny with the father/son name thing is that it seems that often if the name is, say, "Steven" the dad goes by "Steve" and the son goes by "Steven." It is kind of weird to me that the JUNIOR would have the more formal name, though I am glad that they somehow distinguish between the two.
All that aside, there are a lot of reasons to use a father's name, and there is a lot of pride in sharing names. And I guess I can't really talk - I'm the fifth generation with my middle name, and I LOVE that link to the women in my family. So whatever you decide will be right*!!!
*as long as your husband promises not to come on the phone when your son's girlfriend is asking for him. At least not more than once.
Edited by: FRESH.AIR at: 11/30/2011 (23:20)
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MEGBOHEN
Posts: 55
9/6/11 3:03 A
We've had this debate too. There are Jr./Sr. family members already and it does get confusing. So, I think my husband is content with the idea of shortening his name (Andrew to Drew) if it's a boy. That way it can still be "after" him, but not exactly the same. Hopefully, it will be a little less confusing.
LIND1241
Posts: 226
8/24/11 11:22 P
Some people give their son the same name legally but call him by his middle name, like if he was John Joseph Smith II, he'd be Joe just to keep the Johns from getting confused when people are talking. I also know people who give their kid a nickname that isn't really one of his names, like John Smith III might be called Tre (because he's The Third).
So there are options if the father is determined to pass on his entire name, but if you want a different name, be ready to compromise on the middle name, for sure.
MARIA0826
Posts: 96
8/10/11 3:36 P
I also do not like the idea of having two people with the same name in the immediate family. I like using the father's first name as the son's middle name.
NEAKA2001
Posts: 111
8/7/11 1:39 P
MY HUSBAND WANTS MY BABY GIRL TO HAVE HIS SAME INITIALS BUT NAMES WITH A D ARE TO COME UP WITH.
DFGCDG521
Posts: 12
8/7/11 9:21 A
I named my son after my husband. I honestly had other names picked out as well. However, I don't regret naming him after my husband. (Now I get to pick on my husband that he's a SENIOR.) It gives him a lot of pride to know he has a junior and our son is proud and loves being named after his father. However, I can understand wanting to have a unique name for your child. I went through the rebellious stage of not wanting to do the Jr. route! I almost didn't do it, but I'm glad that I did it now. There's something that can't be explained about having a Jr. in your life.
BARNETTASHLEY89
Posts: 2
8/7/11 9:05 A
I am not sure I want to. I want him to be his own person and I have so many other names picked out. Any suggestions?
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