I still cant handel seeing babies and pregnant women. The support group i go to tells me that these feeling are perfectly natural and in time they will pass. These feeling are something that every woman who has suffered a loss has to deal with. Am wishing yo all the best and sticky baby dust for the future
staying strong and full of hope
M/C 09/29/08 (ectopic)
Seth our angel in heaven 07/24/08
M/C 09/18/07
No heart beat 02/15/06
Josh 08/17/90 My 1st a big beautiful boy now all grown up
Lina Rose 01/28/10
KRIPPY
Posts: 522
12/3/08 2:45 A
I know the feeling. My best friend was 2 weeks behind me. She's still pregnant and entering her 2nd trimester now. I still can't see her or talk to her. I feel so selfish, but the problem is that I have made some real progress and have some great days/weeks. When I think about her, it makes me go back to my sad, grieving state and I just don't want to go there. Just the thought of her is a huge reminder of my loss. I'm not jealous of her at all, I just don't want to be reminded of what I've lost. The good news is that they are moving to Portland. I feel so bad that I'm actually relieved that they are moving. I should be so sad, but it's just too hard for me to be around her.
#4: Andrew Michael - C Section Scheduled for June 17, 2010
#3: M/C 3/20/09 (D&C), baby girl went to heaven at 10 weeks 4 days.
#2: M/C 10/13/08 (D&C), baby girl, Maya, went to heaven at 8 weeks 5 days. Cause: 2 sperm fertilized the same egg. Very rare.
First baby - Kaelyn Isabella, born 10/25/07.
On 4/13/09 diagnosed with:
1. MTHFR homozygous gene mutation with normal homocysteine levels
2. Prothrombin Factor II heterozygous gene
KLWEAVER29
Posts: 203
11/28/08 7:33 A
I'm so sorry for your loss and for the fact that you are still so sad. I totally understand. I lost my 4th PG recently. I found out almost 3 weeks ago that it was probably going to end and then it was confirmed last week. I am still feeling the pain of it all. I cry almost every day. I am surrounded by children an PG ladies all the time since I work at a school. 7 ppl have gone or are going on maternity leave in the months that I have have m/c. Tomorrow I am suppose to be going to a baby shower for a cousin but I just can't bring myself to go...and she doesn't even know why. No family knew I was PG but they know I have had several losses. I just can't bring myself to share all the pain I have felt over the last few weeks (we aren't super close) and I don't want to make her feel bad either on her happy day. It is ok to be sad and feel empty. If you love your job don't give it up. It does get better. I hope you are feeling better soon. If you need more time off, take it! It is ok to take of yourself first before work especially if you are having a hard time. You are more important and they should understand. I use to feel guilty...I have only been to work abour 6 days in the last 15 days...but I know if I am to do a good job at work I need to be good to myself right now. I hope you are feeling better soon. There are lots of ppl who feel the same as you and we are all good listeners if you need to talk. Take care, K
Edited by: KLWEAVER29 at: 11/28/2008 (07:40)
M/C Sept 1st, 2007 (D&C)
M/C March 1st, 2008 (etopic, twin 1)
M/C April 5th, 2008 (natural, twin 2)
M/C Nov 19th, 2008 (induced with meds, followed by D&C in Dec)
M/C March 30th, 2010 (D&C)
M/C November 19th, 2010 (induced with meds)
JEMINI BabyPoints:2733
Posts: 193
11/27/08 9:54 A
so I lost my first pregnancy less than a couple weeks ago, I have returned to work where I have to see a 7 month pregnant woman - who I am so happy for, and a 9 week-old pregnant girl.. and I can't handle it. I'm finding it so hard to be here at work and having to listen to the 9 week one talk and blab about her pregnancy. I was a couple weeks ahead of her, only she doesn't know that because I kept mine a secret. I stayed home for a week after the loss, but this is really not helping me get over it any quicker. It also doesn't help that I work at the civic centre here, and I see kids and pregnant moms all the time. It just makes it hurt that much more.. I don't want to quit my job, but I'm finding it really hard to be here. and I don't want to take any more sick days, I feel like I should be starting to get over it, but I just am not, I can't stop thinking about how I finally had my baby inside me, and now I'm empty. I don't have it anymore. It hurts so much. Sorry for all the babble.....
"Never Ever Give Up"
"Courage does not always roar...Sometimes it is the small voice at night that says.....I will try again tomorrow."
MC November 17, 2008.
MC July 18, 2009.
MC March 11, 2010.
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