Your first baby is definitely a different experience than your first - especailly when you have a toodler at home - every little appointment isn't a big deal and you'll find yourself forgetting that your pregnant because you are already so busy.
You'll also find that you are more confident and stress out less about ever little thing (like the baby's head falling off if you don't support it properly)
You'll also discover the joys of trying to look after two - a lot of things are going to be twice as hard, espcially when you find that your toddler always wants attention at the exact moment you can't - changing the infant's diaper, feeding it, etc
*Diane*
Mommy to
Abbigail -my chatty monkey
Adam, my mischievious monkey
Jacob, my autistic snuggle monkey
SHAUNAG85
Posts: 2
12/16/08 8:54 P
I'm finding that this time I'm more excited about the baby because this one was planned where as our first was an OOPS we messed up! I love my son to pieces, and sometimes I feel guilty because this time my husband and I know what we're doing, I'm not 19 and scared, my son is about to turn 4 so I've had a good round with him. However, now, he's starting to feel more independent which has left me into mommy dust! This baby just seems to be more exciting because this time I get to do the things that I couldn't last time. I get to pick out colors, patterns, clothes, furniture, everything I couldn't last time since we were young and grabbing every hand-me-down that was thrown our way. I feel sometimes that it will make my son jealous.. even if he doesn't know right now that we didn't do any of that for him. All in all, this time is more fun!
HMFRYKLUND BabyPoints:1744
Posts: 601
11/13/08 1:51 A
I definitely think this time around will be easier in many ways, but way harder in many ways also. I have a 9 month old daughter, and she will be learning to walk/run when the baby is born, so who even KNOWS what challenges I'll face with a newborn and a runner LOL. But, I was SO new to babies when I had my first, so every little thing was scary lol. Now, I feel like a PRO lol (I know Im not, but its how I feel compared to how I felt before I had my first lol)
** Hollie - Jordyn's Mama **
Baby #1 - Jordyn Janae F. 01/26/08
Baby #2 - Jayda Reyne F. 01/19/09
SCARLETT77
Posts: 2884
11/4/08 2:45 P
In a sense yes... you've been through pregnancy and everything so you have a much better idea what to do and expect with another baby. But on the other hand it comes with whole other set of things to worry about. I have felt a little guilty that I seem to not be as excited or "by the book" this time around. I eat chocolate and cold cuts this time where I didn't last time. We haven't picked out a name, furniture, or how to decorate the nursery. I'm more worried about how DS will react and interact with the new baby, should I start prepping to tandem BF (DS is still BF) should he not want to wean, how to reduce my hours and job role with my company and still maintain my value and a reasonable salary...
Don't get me wrong I love this baby and it this was planned. I just hormonal and have started thinking about things that i didn't consider when we were planning.
We splurged on a nice 3 in 1 crib (Baby's dream) and a bugaboo stroller. I LOVE that stroller and am sad that I might be facing the possibility of going to a double stroller. I really don't like those things. They are heavy and bulky.
Lucky parent of the best kids in the world!
2SOUTHERNBABIES
Posts: 1860
11/4/08 9:42 A
I feel like my second baby is going to be a little easier. I am sure I will worry just as much. I feel like I am worrying more during this pregnancy. I have a 2 1/2 yr.old that keeps me running around now so he takes all of my free time off of my hands. After this baby is born, I won't be so "Oh if the books or doctor don't say it's a good thing, I can't do it" I have experience now and I know what brands of baby stuff is good, what bottles and diapers I like, etc. So yeah I think it will be a little easier when it comes to that kind of stuff, but I am nervous about how I will be able to handle a 3 yr. old and a new baby at the same time. Ever wonder about that or is it just me?
GEMMA81
Posts: 23
11/4/08 7:35 A
well after my scan yesterday I now know that I am 9 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I have a 18 month old girl already. How different is a second pregnancy!! First of all, with my first, the scans were sooo exciting... I didn't want my appointment to finish.. this time it was a case of... 'Great Doctor, good heartbeat, 2 arms and 2 legs. Got to rush off now to do some food shopping. Bye' The scan picture is still on the dinning room table where I plonked it when I got home yesterday. Unlike my first with Leyla (my daughter) already by now in a memory book for when she grows up... Of course I plan to do this for the new baby but I have other things on my mind this time instead of day dreaming about a new baby all day. anyway this provoked me to start thinking about how much easier it will be this time round having a baby. It made my realise that I won't be worrying about every cry that does not fall around milk time and even how much milk ( or little milk) baby may be taking. So what are your views on second babies? are you worried you won't be able to cope or quietly confident like me that you won't even have to time to worry about if I am coping.
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