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M/C after normal 8-week ultrasound

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ELIZABETH820
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10/31/06 7:50 P

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Rowena-I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. At times like this its so hard to find the right words to comfort a grieving soul and much hard to comfort a grieving mother. Losing a child is tough at any stage sweetie, and what you’re feeling is normal. But as it was said asking the “what, or why” question will do nothing but make things worse for you. Just trust in your faith that this happened for a reason, one we will never understand until it’s our turn to leave this earth.. We lost our Son at 23 weeks approximately 13 days after we had our Sonogram… Life is never fair, however our paths are chosen for us long before we’re conceived. Your little girl was picked for you and for a reason you may one day come to understand. Stephen, our son was a blessing from Christ, he brought my husband and I closer to one another, and much more importantly closer to God. He has changed my life so much with the short time he was with me. I’m on this board helping others a lot because I believe sharing my experience and offering what ever I can to other women helps me with grieving and reminds me of him daily. No one can tell you how to grieve or how long only you can decide what is right for you sweet girl. Just know you have friends here who have been there and can offer you as much support and help as you need.

I never have the right words but I hope you find some comfort with knowing your little one shines down on you from heaven above!

If you need anything please email me!

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CONGBU
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10/27/06 4:50 P

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THANK YOU everyone for your kind words of support and encouragement. It helps a bit to know you each have similar stories and are moving on after having experienced loss. You are all strong women.

I am back at work today. I realized that staying home only led me to dwell on the mc and almost obsess over it and it helps to slowly get back into the old routine. I thank my baby angel for coming into my life. It was a blessing to have her if only for a short time.




Angel Baby Tran: due 5/8/07, lost 10/24/06 at 12 weeks. May God Bless her and keep her.
ROBIN5470
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10/27/06 3:07 P

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I also had a perfect ultrasound at 8 weeks 4 days, the baby measured 8 w 1 d, but they said that was within the normal range. The heart rate was 171. Everything looked great. I miscarried at 10 weeks on august 26th the baby's heart beat stopped about 4 days after the ultrasound. I also had my hopes up after reading the statistics. Unfortunately I was one of the few percent. They said that most likely this happens due to a chromosomal defect that doesn't let the baby develop past a certain point.

The doctor told me the only thing I could do to prevent another miscarriage was to take folic acid 3 months before I conceive. She said that it wouldn't have prevented the type they thought I had, but could prevent the ones caused by neural tube and heart defects. I am continuing to take my prenatals and an extra b vitamin with folic acid in it.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Just know that we are here for you!

Edited by: ROBIN5470 at: 10/27/2006 (15:08)


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TABTALD
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10/27/06 1:00 P

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I'm so sorry for your loss, I had the same thing happen to me. We had a health heart beat at 9 weeks and 6 days (164bpm) and the U/s also came out fine. THen the next time we went they couldnt find a heartbeat. I just wanted to say that I am sure it will get a bit easier with time. For now just try to be strong.

GRACEJOY
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10/26/06 7:42 P

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Rowena, I am so sorry for your loss. It's extremely painful and the "why" just makes it harder. Many times there isn't a reason. Sometimes it's chromosome issues, that's what they told me probably happened to my baby. It was our first, I was 10 weeks along when I miscarried and my baby measured only 7 weeks. My m/c happened 2 days before our wedding day.

I had those same feelings - I did all the right things, I took care of myself, I avoided anything potentially harmful from caffeine to cleaning the cat litter box... and it just happened. And yet sometimes people do the wrong things and their babies turn out fine anyway. It's just so random.

I heard all of those same statistics about a 2% miscarriage rate after seeing a heartbeat, etc. I seriously doubt some of those numbers because it happens so darn often - just on our March thread alone, there are so many of us who went through it at the same time.

Reassure yourself that everything you are feeling is perfectly normal, give yourself time to grieve and heal, and don't ever question that you might have done something wrong that could have been prevented. You didn't.

My thoughts are with you during this. You aren't alone.

MELINASMOM
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10/26/06 7:27 P

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I've experienced similar heartbreak--I had two MCs, one in Oct '05 and one in June '06... both were after I had a successful pregnancy with my little girl. I didn't do anything differently with the first pregnancy than I did with the following two. Many pregnancies fail--it's unfortunately a very painful fact. In my experience, asking "why" just makes me feel worse, because nobody has an answer. Generally, too, it's only after three MCs that many doctors start to really investigate what's going on, unless you're assertive with them. There are a lot of women on babyfit who have experienced similar things--I have found that learning that I'm not alone helps a lot. As far as preventing it from happening again, that's a tough one. You'd need more diagnostics by your healthcare professional, but for the most part, even after all the medical and other external interventions, the best anybody can do is pray that the next time will be "the" time, you know? I hope this is at least a little bit helpful. Again, I'm so very sorry for your loss--please take care and be good to yourself.


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CONGBU
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10/26/06 7:07 P

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2 days ago, I had a m/c at 12 weeks. At 8 weeks, I had an ultrasound which detected a healthy heartbeat. Everything appeared normal. Then I read that when a heartbeat is detected at 8 weeks, your chances of continuing the pregnancy increase to 98%. This boosted my confidence in the pregnancy and I told everyone about it. So why am I one of the rare cases that ended up with a m/c?

I was doing everything I could to ensure a healthy pregnancy and still can't believe this happened. It was my first pregnancy.

If you had a similar experience, please share. I want to do all I can to prevent this from happening again. Thanks.

Still grieving, Rowena


Angel Baby Tran: due 5/8/07, lost 10/24/06 at 12 weeks. May God Bless her and keep her.

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