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2/12/06 8:49 A

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I had my baby at 20 weeks and she lived for three hours. But I still planned when we would try again, we were even ready to be intimate the day of her funeral - I've found that it can really help, I call it regrouping.

Lily would be due this week and already I am 10 weeks pregnant. Although nothing changes how I feel about her, it has eased my pain to have this baby here.

Mark bought me an amethyst ring for Christmas, as it's the stone for February.

Thinking about another baby is allowing life to carry on, so it is healthy. You will never forget the one you lost, but you need to carry on living.


~~~Claire~~~
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2/11/06 10:51 P

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I feel bad because I am sad but at the same time I know that it happened for a good reason. I am sad at the idea that I lost a baby. But I am glad that it happened when it did. We weren't too emotionally attached to the baby. We hadn't picked out name or anything. We lost the baby early on so I think that was better too. Today my parents came in to town and my mom and me went to the mall and she bought me a birthstone ring that the stone is heart shaped for the baby's birth month. It feels nice because I will wear it forever and will always think of my baby. I feel sort of bad because I'm ready to move on. I want to start trying to have another baby already. Is it wrong to be ready so soon? I feel like I should be grieving more.



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2/11/06 5:23 P

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JAKIGOSCH, I went through a real up and down of emotions. Terrified it would happen again, but not wanting to never be a mum. Give yourself till you have physically gotten over this and your back on your cycle and you will know better how you feel. I found that just going for it helped because it didn't give me chance to think too much or back out.


~~~Claire~~~
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2/11/06 6:05 A

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(HEATHERCHPT)I sorry about your lost. Well we are both in the same situation, at that time i didn't know that we be having twin, I have to stay in hospital for 3 day and found out that both of my babies are gone.This 15Feb will be the memoriable for me.They left me on that day. Hopefully this time will be great and this Monday will be my first checkup.will be doing ultrasound.

Edited by: RADIOACTIVE444 at: 2/11/2006 (06:07)


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JAKIGOSCH
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2/10/06 6:42 P

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I'm so unsure of what to do next. I want to have another baby but I'm afraid if I get pregnant too soon I'll miscarry again. Also it took us over a year to get pregnant this last time and that was totally draining on me emotionally. I don't know if I could go through that again right now.


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I'm so unsure of what to do next. I want to have another baby but I'm afraid if I get pregnant too soon I'll miscarry again. Also it took us over a year to get pregnant this last time and that was totally draining on me emotionally. I don't know if I could go through that again right now.


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2/10/06 6:37 P

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ohh mate im sooo sorry about your miscarriage, i wish there was something i could do to help. i miscarried the natural way at 5 weeks and just had a slight cramp i was very lucky. the doc told us to wait a good 3 cycles b4 trying again, but if we really wanted to try again we could so we were bak trying the following month (oct 05) but nothing has happen since then. so we are bak trying again. just know your not alone. we are here for u.
take care
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JAKIGOSCH
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2/10/06 4:41 P

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Last night I had a miscarriage. I went to the emergency room on Tues because of horrible cramping and spotting. They found the baby's hearbeat and said there was probably nothing wrong. I called my doctor on Wed. morning and got a doctor's appointment for Thurs. morning. I went in with more bleeding and passing tissue. He put me on a vag. sepository (sp?) to try and save the baby. I went home right away and put it in. After an hour went to the bathroom with horrible cramps and started hemoragging. Went in for an emergency d&c. Not a pleasant experience. But I'm glad that it stopped the bleeding. I've been really sad the past day but I know the baby's in a better place. I keep having to tell myself that. My four year old daughter is taking it really well. She says she can't wait to get to Heaven to see the baby! I miscarried at 10 1/2 weeks. What is the normal time before trying again?


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2/9/06 8:09 P

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radioactive444 - sorry to hear I can say this in truth you are not alone I did the same thing this morning at 3am and did not know until my boyfriend took me to the doctor because of the pain and they said they (yes they twins) were gone. I was 8 weeks today. 2/9/06. DEBB32 good luck to you the 3rd time is the charm (at least that's what they say!)

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2/7/06 5:05 P

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hey guys,

hey radioactive444- my 1st miscarraige in sept05 i felt guilty with as i flushed my baby down the toilet too, but mine wasnt as bad as yours, i lost our baby at 5 weeks, and it was like a normal period and the doctor told me it came out naturally, in jan 06 i had a phantom pregnacy so we are bak trying again hopefully this month things might be different. good luck with your pregnacy. im sure u will make a great mum.


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2/7/06 5:04 P

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hey guys,

hey radioactive444- my 1st miscarraige in sept05 i felt guilty with as i flushed my baby down the toilet too, but mine wasnt as bad as yours, i lost our baby at 5 weeks, and it was like a normal period and the doctor told me it came out naturally, in jan 06 i had a phantom pregnacy so we are bak trying again hopefully this month things might be different. good luck with your pregnacy. im sure u will make a great mum.


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2/5/06 8:34 P

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Now I be having my 3rd child in Sep..I can't wait


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2/4/06 9:07 P

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I have a miscarriage for my 2nd child in the of 2004.Actualy before the date that i've m/c I have the painful abdomen pain and my leg feel very tired..And I've a craving for KFC. asked my hubby to buy them. I eat with my heart content.The next morning I woke up and found a pool off blood.I feel very miserable at that time.I run straight to the toilet and suddenly a lump of blood fell off. I thought it was nothing(blood clot).So i threw inside the bowl and flush it..we rush to the hospital and they check that my uterus are empty...than i realised that i have throw my baby inside the bowl with my own hand.Now I'm having fear for craving KFC again.


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XXX_CLAIRE_XXX
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1/24/06 8:52 P

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Hi Debb,

Not everyone needs a D&C and at that age you probably wouldn't have needed one. The fact that your periods have come back and are normal means that everything was ok. This one may not be to do with the mc, but sometimes it's like you are starting again, like being a teenager and your body learning what a cycle is!


~~~Claire~~~
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2 Angel Babies Lily Hope, 28-29/9/05
3rd Baby - Isobel Sara Lily 17/7/06

Lily's Verse - http://tinyurl.com/mgrro

Baby Led Weaning (starting solids), No Spoons, No Mush, No Fuss! Who said you need teeth to eat meat?

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1/24/06 5:39 P

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hey guys,

just a quick question. i had a m/c in sept last yr, i was 4 weeks and 3 days when the doc told us we were pregnant a couple of days later i got my periods, went to the doc within those couple of days and he told me i miscarried my baby, so by that time was 5 weeks along. but the question is: he never told me i need to get a d&c done, should this been done? since sept my periods have been normal excpet this month i still havent got them im 3 weeks late, but went to my new doc yesterday and he told me i wasnt pregnant just one of those things that happen, but am having a blood test today and bak to him on tuesday! just really wondered if anyone else has gone through the same thing?


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REKKACHINO
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1/20/06 11:17 P

 
 
Just wanted to let you know that I did have a natural miscarriage yesterday. The baby came first and the placenta came almost 14 hours later. The midwives came and took good care of me. Everything seemed to be intact so I don't think I will need to go in for a D&C. I will be listening to my body for signs that there may still be part of the placenta, but the midwives seem quite confident that everything was expelled.

Thanks so much for all the posts on this board. They have helped tremendously!
Erin

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1/20/06 2:54 P

 
 
Erin -

i am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. it is such a hard situation. many hugs and prayers are being sent your way!

i had a natural miscarriage at the end of December. i was 9 weeks PG. thankfully, i was able to pass my baby naturally, but i can admit that it was very painful and somewhat tramatic. i had already started bleeding when i found out that the baby died...so my body was already doing what it was supposed to.

i have no had a D&C so i can't comment about that. but, i agree that it's not good to wait too long just because our bodies to have a risk of infection.

my thoughts are with you. this event is hard enough without having to make so many medical decisions. hang in there...

XXX_CLAIRE_XXX
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1/20/06 12:31 A

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Sadly Erin, the "old wives tales" need your body to be suseptible to labour and it really doesn't seem to be. There are pills to cause contractions and some people on here have mentioned the "abortion pill" it causes your body to expel the baby (I'm not quite sure what happens with it). Not all doctors are willing to do that and I don't understand the subject enough to say why or when it should be taken.

I had a natural MC at 8 weeks and a natural birth at 20, both were spontaneous and were over in about a week. I'd rather lose like that than have an operation, but a lot of women aren't that fortunate, they either have a bad natural or nothing happens and they need a D&C.

I think the best thing you can do is put yourself into the hands of the doctor now.

I'm really sorry this has happened to you. I think in some ways it get's harder as you go through as you feel safer and safer, you get more attached to the baby and start feelings things happen.


~~~Claire~~~
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1 Miscarriage - 4/05
2 Angel Babies Lily Hope, 28-29/9/05
3rd Baby - Isobel Sara Lily 17/7/06

Lily's Verse - http://tinyurl.com/mgrro

Baby Led Weaning (starting solids), No Spoons, No Mush, No Fuss! Who said you need teeth to eat meat?

REKKACHINO
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1/18/06 9:18 P

 
 
My midwife is nervous about letting me go too long. I'm new to the area and don't have an OB/Gyn. It's hard to find one that you "click" with from a bunch of names from the insurance company. My midwife gave me a name but he isn't preferred. I'm waiting right now for her to get back to me with more names. Otherwise, I will try a group that is close by. I plan to give them a call tomorrow.

My midwife mentioned herbs, but I think the one she mentioned lowers blood pressure. My blood pressure is pretty low normally so I'm not sure that is the best option. An ob/gyn can prescribe medication for me when I find one.

I was hoping that there might be some "old wives tales" out there to help like there are for going into labor.

Thanks for sharing your experience. It helps to know what others have gone through.

Erin

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1/18/06 7:43 P

 
 
I'm so sorry for your loss.

I also found out at 17 weeks that my baby stopped developing at 14 weeks. The day I found out the baby had died I started having bleeding. That night I delivered most of the placenta and part of the baby while I was at home. It was extremely traumatic. I ended up going to the hospital and having a d&c, for me it was the best decision. I didn't have hardly any bleeding afterward and I was asleep for the procedure. My other two m/cs were natural and I bleed for a lot of weeks. I'm sure the baby will pass soon but be prepared for a lot more stuff to come out at the stage you are at. I'm not really sure how to speed up the process, I have heard of medication but I don't know anything about it. You are also at risk of infection after that length of time. What did your dr tell you?

Laura

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Erin,

I am so sorry to hear of your m/c. I'm sure you've already noticed, you are not alone. This message board really helped me through my m/c in December. I was 8 weeks and had a d&c performed. What has your doctor said about your wanting a natural m/c?? Because it has been 6 wks already, they may really push for you to get d&c b/c of infection/hemorage. I've heard of women on this site being given meds to speed the process. Don't be affraid of the d&c. I was too, but it was so quick and I have healed well. You have a tough decision to make, best wishes to you and we're all here for you!

Stacie


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REKKACHINO
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1/18/06 6:25 P

 
 
I just found out yesterday that my baby didn't have a heartbeat. I am 17 1/2 weeks pregnant and the baby measured only 12 weeks. I am interested in advice on where to go from here. I really want a natural miscarriage but after almost 6 weeks it doesn't seem to be happening. Does anyone know of anything to speed it along? I am a little nervous about getting a D & C because I have a latex allergy. The local hospital assured me that they can accomodate me, but I have my doubts.

This was my 5th pregnancy - the first ended in a miscarriage 12/96 at 5-6 weeks. I've had two girls and a boy since then (7, 5, & 3) and was really looking forward to this baby due 6/24/06. I am quite sad as this grieving process has started. I know that I will heal both emotionally and physically eventually.

Thanks in advance for your advice and support.
Erin


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