Petition the court. Explaint the situation and that your new husband is a servicemember. Go to them with a good plan for visitation for your child's father.
9/9/10 8:19 P
I am getting married in December and the father of my child is refusing to let move out of state with my son. My fiance is in the Army. We will be gone until next October when he gets out of the military for good.
For those of you who know me and my situation you can understand why this is a problem. The father of my son smokes pot. He is always stoned out of his mind when I drop and or pick him up. He also doesn't have his own place. He lives with his Dad and crackhead brother. I don't feel safe leaving my son with his Dad and moving up there by myself. I think it would be selfish of me and I would miss him entirely too much. He is a terrible father. He pays child support and only takes him when he is required per our parenting plan and even then he sometimes skips out on visits. He never takes him out of the blue just to enjoy his company.
He told me that he is going to fight for custody now. I don't think he has the money for an attorney, but you never know, he could conjure up some way to pay for one. By law, I have to give him a 30 day notice stating that I am moving out of state with my son and he has 30 days to take action and fight it.
The move is best for my family. I want to live with my husband and I would be able to spend more time with my son because our situation would warrant it. This would mean he would have more of a stable situation to live in.
I just don't know what to do.
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