I'm so glad I didn't comment on this thread so long ago!!! I would have been kicking myself in the a** right now because it probably wouldn't have been very nice!haha! I say to each their own! You gotta figure out what works best for you and your LO!
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RYLANS_MOMMY
Posts: 7123
11/11/07 9:57 A
I think we are all beyond that point now...but some babies have a stronger desire to suck than other babies do. Sometimes you just have to satisfy that need.
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LORENCRAIG88
Posts: 8
11/10/07 11:41 A
I was told by 2 lactation experts and my midwife that if you plan to breadtfeed pacifiers cause nipple confusion. Its also harder for baby to latch on because they get used the shape of the pacifier which is easier for them to hold onto then the breast.i guess its a personal choice but i dont really see the use for them. Babies will learn other methods to soothe themself.
TRU4PAX5
Posts: 9265
2/12/06 7:02 A
I have 3 children and tried to give it to all of them. However, only some kids actually take it. I had one who wouldn't even touch it one who had it until he was 2 1/2 and then gave it up by himself by losing it and one that occasionally would take it but never really needed it. I have nothing against them they are a way to help a fussy baby to self sooth which is deffinately something every baby needs to learn anyway.
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AMBER4099
Posts: 1740
2/11/06 4:36 P
we weren't going to give our son one, but I nursed him and he was on the breast constantly. I would have never had a break if we hadn't decided to get a binky. We are buying them ahead of time this time.
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2NDTIMEMAMA
Posts: 771
2/11/06 3:18 P
Before I had DS I swore that I would never ever binky. When he was born and had horrible, horrible colic, I tried it. He never took it. I agree with the not giving them one just to stick something in there mouth's, BUT if your child has colic or needs to suck constantly, I'd bet you'll try it. I was such a firm believer in never ever doing it, but watching my little guy so miserable I would have done anything to sooth him. I am of course glad it didn't work in the end because I never had to deal with him giving it up. I guess my point it that my personal opinion is that you sort of need to meet your baby and see what there personality is before you make a realy decision. Like one of the other moms said, one of her kids needed it and the other didn't. As long as you make sure you take those things away at the right time I don't know too many people who have problems. My son stopped the bottle at 11 months and it was never an issue. Having a 3 year old with a binky would not be something I would be comfortable with.
MEANDMY3BOYS
Posts: 2177
2/11/06 11:06 A
Binky here!!!
THELACE
Posts: 2201
2/11/06 10:40 A
ISAACNBELLASMOM, of course it is a debate...it is babyfit...a bunch of hormonal pregant women and we all think our ways are best!!! lol Glad you understood me, thank you. Bugsmama really did say it better than I did.
katimousa, See also what will happen if the baby does not 'satisfy' their anal stage according to Freud. lol...you'll feel differently. Also, interesting statistice (i know...they are all such b.s.) about binkys and smokers...in 'The pregnancy bible'..it says that baby's who used pacifiers were three times more likely to become smokers. Goes to show how the 'studies' always contradict eachother.
Also, I don't remember who said it before about...if they have to be told to take it out to talk....I totally agree....way too old. i thouht of this post at dinner last night when a kid came in with one and took it out to order. lol
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JIGGSM
Posts: 1019
2/10/06 11:48 P
We just a couple months ago took my sons soother away and he was 3 in December. He never had it out in public at that age but did at home. His teeth are fine and I also spoke to my dentist about it. This baby will also have a soother if they want. I think that there are way worse things in life than a child having a soother.
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KAITMOUSSA
Posts: 632
2/10/06 11:23 P
Iwill give my baby one, but wean her between 8 months to a year. In my psychology class, we learned that if you don't satisfy the sucking stage when a child is young, they could possibly pick up bad habits later on in life, like chewing hair, biting nails, smoking, or overeating. Another words always wanting something in their mouth.
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TENILLE76
Posts: 949
2/10/06 10:02 P
I didnt' even read the original post and have not read the rest of people reply , but here's my personal decision on pacifers : I used one with my son , I breastfed and I just used it when I really couldn't feed or comfort him ( example in checkout line groceries half loaded on the belt , couldn't run off to nurse, ummmm almost home and in the car , stuff like this ) I can't even remember when I took it away but I know it was well under a year. I will use one with this little one under the same circumstances, but limitedly and only for under a year. I have recently read a report in I think it was American Baby or something like that , it was an article on the most important things found to prevent and cut chances of SIDS, it was saying that using a pacifier in the beginning cuts the risk , they think it is because for one the position of the tongue and mouth make for easier breathing ( airways open) , and also it helps baby not fall into a deep deep sleep ( which they find associtated w/SIDS deaths).
HEATHER_M
Posts: 4918
2/10/06 10:01 P
I always got irritated with my SIL because it seemed to me that she always wanted her daughter to have the binky in her mouth, even when she didn't "need" one.
I put need in quotes because she wasn't crying and wasn't acting like she needed soothing, just doing normal baby stuff. I always wanted to yank that thing out of her mouth, because it appeared to me to be a forced habit.
I got lucky with my son, he didn't ever really need it often. I would offer it too him if he was cranky and all his needs were met, but most of the time he spit it right out.
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ISAACNBELLASMOM
Posts: 835
2/10/06 7:38 P
Whoa, I didn't know this was going to be a debated topic. Sorry guys... I was just curious to find out what everyone was going to do. Thank you THELACE for clearing things up though. I agree with most of everything that everyone has said. Guess I'll leave the decision to use it with my daughter for later, once she's actually here. I definetly won't be the mom to pop in her mouth anytime she cries though. Thanks for everyones input!
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HULLSTEPHANIE
Posts: 8341
2/10/06 7:08 P
I totally agree with Bugsmama!
Edited by: HULLSTEPHANIE at: 2/10/2006 (19:08)
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MRSJIKZ
Posts: 1632
2/10/06 7:08 P
I think I'll give one to my baby... But I won't let him have it when he's not a baby anymore.
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THELACE
Posts: 2201
2/10/06 7:07 P
Bugsmama...thank you for your post..you articulated it better than I did.
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THELACE
Posts: 2201
2/10/06 6:42 P
I know it is an unpopular opinion and somewhat unwarranted given that I don't have kids and havn't tried it. Maybe I will feel differently when I have the baby...we'll see. Also, that is why I clarified about 'pacifying' the baby, because I know that the sucking reflex is a different reason for some parents. I still feel this way about pacifiers, but the laziness comment was not directed at all who choose to use them.
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MEVNMART
Posts: 2108
2/10/06 6:31 P
TheLace,
I felt the same way you did...before I had my son. You're not "plugging" the baby to keep it quiet, you're giving him something that's not his fist or thumb to suck on. Baby's have a sucking reflex that comforts them - I personally didn't use one until breastfeeding was well established, and I know my son never went hungry, un-cuddled or soiled because he had a pacifier and couldn't let me know about it. A gassy baby with a pacifier still crys. A hungry baby with a pacifier still crys. It's not laziness at all...perhaps you'll feel differently once your baby arrives.
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Posts: 2053
2/10/06 6:11 P
My first daughter never had one, but my second did. She was a very unsettled baby, and it helped her alot. But now i wish i never tried it, as i know i am going to have a tough time getting it off her.
I do not want to give this bubs one
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THELACE
Posts: 2201
2/10/06 3:51 P
Heather said it....'plug'...that is how I personally feel, and I know it isn't popular. I was referring to those that use it to 'pacify' fussy babies. Babies cry for a reason, that is their communication. I wouldn't cut off a deaf person's hands. And I won't plug a baby's cry. I already see the faults that this analogy poses, but for the sake of the point, I hope you understand what I mean by it. The sids thing...is another contraversial study yet again. Also, why must babies even be 'pacified.'
Edited by: THELACE at: 2/10/2006 (15:52)
Lillian Averille Friis was born 04/05/06 naturally at 8 lbs. 5 oz. and 22 inches long. We are so much happier than we ever dreamed we could be. Aila Song was also born naturally on 04/08/08 at 8lbs. 2 oz and 21 inches.
ISAACNBELLASMOM
Posts: 835
2/10/06 3:25 P
I dont' think it makes a parent lazy to give their child a pacifier. A pacifier is meant to do just that ... pacify the baby. Sometimes there are situations where the parent just isn't able to pacify the baby. Parents who allow their child to suck on it all day, that may be a different story. For me as a nursing mother, I perfer the pacifier every now and again rather then my baby always wanting to suck on me. I'm interested to know why it's considered lazy to give a pacifier to a baby.
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THELACE
Posts: 2201
2/10/06 2:53 P
No binky here...I think parents have gotten lazy.
Lillian Averille Friis was born 04/05/06 naturally at 8 lbs. 5 oz. and 22 inches long. We are so much happier than we ever dreamed we could be. Aila Song was also born naturally on 04/08/08 at 8lbs. 2 oz and 21 inches.
KRISTINH
Posts: 845
2/10/06 2:21 P
I thought my son would never give it up! But, over Christmas this year, when he was 22 mos I took it one morning and just never gave it back. It only seemed to affect him if he found one or he saw one. Other than that, he never mentioned it. THANK GOD! I knew we had to break him befor the new baby came or we would have to break them both just to get it from the older one! We will be using one this time, it makes life easier and the whole SIDS thing just makes it seem even better!
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ISAACNBELLASMOM
Posts: 835
2/10/06 1:57 P
My son is 2 and half as well and still addicted. But I feel the same way, I don't want to take it away from him right before a new baby. He's already going to have to deal with so much once she's here. I like the idea of keeping in his room only, however, I could honestly see my son not ever wanting to leave his room so he could be with it. It hasn't stalled his speech or anything... his doc said he seems a little ahead for speech. So I guess I shouldn't worry to much.
EDD April 4, 2006
Isabella Paige born April 9th
8lbs 14oz & 19 1/2 inches
First Child born September 28, 2003
Little boy, Isaac Dean
Married just over 3 years
HDEVINE
Posts: 233
2/10/06 1:19 P
Worked well for me the first time. We took it away at 8 months (it was causing ear infections). The first day was tough (she didn't cry, just clingy), but after that she was fine :)
I will DEFINITELY use it again...This was GREAT when we traveled during the first 6 months of her life (we went to Bermuda, Minnesota, Mexico and Dallas--we have NO relatives within several hours of flying)
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CARABOU
Posts: 504
2/10/06 12:42 P
The reason we're going to give it to him when he sleeps is because all the reading I've done about SIDS has cited pacifier use at night as a way of lessening the chances of it occurring. It keeps the baby from rolling over on his/her face, I guess. But SIDS is a tricky thing and no one really knows enough about it to say one thing or the other can definitely affect it. Anyway, I think weening him between 9 months and a year would be a good idea. Heh... I wonder how many of my high hopes about my fabulous parenting skills will be dashed to pieces once I'm actually confronted with the job?
Sarah
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GODFREY22
Posts: 518
2/10/06 12:42 P
my son is 2 and a half and won't give it up. He is only allowed to have it in his room, so basically at nap time and bed time. NEVER LEAVES HIS ROOM. I asked the doc about it and she said it was fine as long as he didn't have it hanging out of his mouth all the time. He doesn't have a blanket or stuffed animal, he has is PASSI! and I just hate it---but I figured with the new baby coming..probably best to let him keep it awhile longer.
ISAACNBELLASMOM
Posts: 835
2/10/06 12:39 P
I've never really done much research on pacifiers but I do know that if children use them past age 3 then it will/can affect their teeth and gums. I think it's fine for them to have as babies thru out the day as well, but you have to find the right age to wean them. I said 9 months only because thats really when I think my son found his independence and would freak if I took anything from him.
EDD April 4, 2006
Isabella Paige born April 9th
8lbs 14oz & 19 1/2 inches
First Child born September 28, 2003
Little boy, Isaac Dean
Married just over 3 years
ISAACNBELLASMOM
Posts: 835
2/10/06 12:25 P
In the case of my son, I would suggest weaning it from the baby between 9 months and a year. But I think it's great your going to only try and give it to him at night. Right now, that's the only time we allow my son to have it, when he's going to bed. But even then... he's way too old for it.
EDD April 4, 2006
Isabella Paige born April 9th
8lbs 14oz & 19 1/2 inches
First Child born September 28, 2003
Little boy, Isaac Dean
Married just over 3 years
CARABOU
Posts: 504
2/10/06 12:18 P
We're planning on giving our son a pacifier when he sleeps but I don't want him to have it for too long. I've been around a lot of kids who have been completely dependent on their pacifiers and I don't want that to happen to my baby. I think it's okay for him to have when he's really little but I don't know when I should start trying to ween him from it later on. Maybe close to a year? Less?
Sarah
Benjamin Story: First baby and the light of my life.
ISAACNBELLASMOM
Posts: 835
2/10/06 12:15 P
I definetly agree on the thumb sucking thing. You can never get rid of the baby's thumb. I keep telling my son when baby Bella comes she's going to need your binkies. (of course she'll actually have her own, unused ones). but he keeps telling me she doesn't need them. We had him broken of the habit for a whole week and then he got really sick and found one. He comforted him soooo good that I just couldn't pull myself to take away. So we're back to phase one. But thank you for mentioning the thumbsucking point. I'd rather Bella be a binkie junkie then a thumb sucker.
EDD April 4, 2006
Isabella Paige born April 9th
8lbs 14oz & 19 1/2 inches
First Child born September 28, 2003
Little boy, Isaac Dean
Married just over 3 years
SOCTRKGRL
Posts: 1546
2/10/06 12:11 P
We are going to do a pacifier if the baby wants it. I was a thumb sucker personally. It was horrible cause it took sooo long to break....I was like 10, I'm totally embarassed, cause I'd sneak around and do it. I think with a pacifier you can slowly get rid of them and then they "break" and your child can't get another. Or you can share with other little babies who need it now that you're kid's a big kid and doesn't need theirs anymore. Something along those lines. I just don't want my kid to suck their thumb cause it was so hard for me to break.
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