Update....I don't know what it is, but she has been such a little angel lately!!! Yeah! She has started to play very nicely with her brother and pickup from childcare is incident free! My precious sweet little girl is back...Yeah!!!
We have two precious blessings now. Abby, born on January 20, 2006 and Nathan, born on June 10, 2007.
SPERTOSO
Posts: 502
6/9/08 8:23 A
thank you all for your posts! Alaskanmommy, I have actually started ignoring it and letting my provider deal with it, and it does seem to be helping. It is soooo hard for me because 1) I'm mommy and 2) I have a degree in early childhood and have taught 3yrs all the way to 2nd grade...so for whatever reason I feel like I should be able to fix or deal with whatever situation is at hand...and being a mom really is so different!!! I learn every day that no type of education can prepare you for parenthood...other than parenthood itself!!!
We have two precious blessings now. Abby, born on January 20, 2006 and Nathan, born on June 10, 2007.
TJSMOMTRESGIRL
Posts: 641
6/7/08 10:53 P
working in a daycare/preschool I see this ALOT. and it doesnt just happened when its a childs own parents come in to get them.. it happens when they see any kind of parent.. I do believe they think that if they do this when a parent is in front of them they will not get disciplined or talked to about it.. I know thats the case in the preschool room, im not to sure about the toddler room. I think kids think they will get away with alot more when the parents are around.. what I have advised a couple of the parents who have come to me with this concern is dont react.. When a few of my kids do it in front of their parents I still take them aside and talk to them.. sometimes with the parents and talk about how we can fix this.. to their surprise it really works. so If you want, talk to your provider and ask them to talk to them just like they would if they were doing it any other time during the day. hopefully that helps?
My son taught me how to live each day to the fullest and how to REALLY enjoy everything ive been dealt.. i love him more than life!
JESS5418
Posts: 1319
5/30/08 12:56 A
My normally unusually sweet little boy is a pincher and an occasional biter. He isn't in daycare, but he has a soccer class once a week and goes to church daycare/gym daycare few times a week. I remember once awhile back, I picked him up from the gym daycare and he said "hi, mom" and then hugged this little girl and proceeded to push her to the ground. I was shocked and he acted as though nothing happened. Needless to say, Matthew does time-out, it works best for him. Sitting still and bored is brutal for him. We do 2 minutes.
I think it's normal, agressive 2 yo. behavior,like the "this is mine, claim your stakes" attitude. I think Matthew does it to draw attention, I know he does it often when I hold other children because he is jealous and knows that regardless if the behavior is bad or good, I will still react to him. Our little ones are just trying to figure out the right approach to the way things work, and because they are 2, they are going to see how far they can push the boundaries. Usually, I immediately pull Matthew aside and sternly tell him that it is not okay to act like that and explain in the simplest terms he understands what I expect and why he needs to behave. ( Ex: "At soccer, you will listen to Coach Sarah and share the balls with your friends." "If you do not listen and do not share, you will go to time out or go home. ")
Just keep doing what your doing, I think it's typical (I hope)and that they will grow out of it. Different kids have different personalites and ways of expressing their feelings.
Jessica
Baby #2 due March 8th, 2010!
SPERTOSO
Posts: 502
5/29/08 3:19 P
My daughter is such a stinker, I don't know what to do!!! I just went back to work full time a month and a half ago and so my daughter (2yrs4mo) and son (almost 1) went to a home daycare center. The first day my daughter bit a little girl, and the third day she bit a little boy...I was beside myself. I told her that if she went all day and didn't bite i would give her m&m's (yes i bribed her), and it worked, she hasn't bit since, and i only gave her m&m's for about 2 weeks. Well lately she has started this new thing when I come to pick her up she pushes or grabs other kids when she sees me. I think it is just to get a rise out of me, but it is driving me crazy. I usually give her ton's of attention when I come in, but now she is doing this the second she sees me. I don't know what to do. It makes me so sad that she is "hurting" other kids! She also hits and has started to bite her little brother. I don't tollerate it and she goes straight into time out whenever she does this. She's my baby girl and i love her so much. She is bright and sweet (usually) and this kills me!!! Am I alone with this behavior from my 2yr old???
We have two precious blessings now. Abby, born on January 20, 2006 and Nathan, born on June 10, 2007.
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