We're there too. I've found a few things that help. I try to give her a choice in things when I can. I try not to give her the option to use her favorite word, "no". Do you want kix or cheerios? Sit on the potty or get a diaper? That helps head off some of the tantrums.
Our biggest ones now are TV and diaper changes. I can usually get her to lay still for a diaper if I sing her a song. Her favorites are old McDonald (she loves correcting me when the cow goes oink) and Itsy Bitsy Allie (Spider). I started using her name to get her attention. The water spout is her belly, so she gets tickles too. She also loves to help mommy. So I ask her to help and grab her toes and lift her butt.
I've start ignoring her tantrums and walking away. She usually follows me crying Mommy. It's starting to get pretty weak now. Today when she couldn't have my keys after day care she was obviously faking it. I walked a little bit, she followed me, I turned around, laughed and said, "faker". She gave a half hearted "cry" then laughed, gave me "the look" and ran up the hill for me to chase her.
We're finding that threatening her with consequences is working pretty well too. If you color on the carpet, I'm taking the crayons away. If you don't sit down, I'm taking your food away.
On the flip side of that is rewarding her for good behavior. Letting her watch TV when she does what we want her to do. Letting her help mommy in the kitchen. (I have a bowl of onions. If nothing else, I let her put them into a different bowl.)
I'm not saying it always works. Yesterday when I had company coming for dinner and a migraine, she chose to be doubly whiney and cranky. That didn't go over so well.
The hardest part is at the beginning when you're trying to show that it doesn't bother you and it does bother you. The other hard part is not threatening with things that you can't carry through with. If you do that you'll never get this again. Do you want to go Night night now? (at 3 in the afternoon.)
DH and I also talk about her in front of her when she's behaving well.
I honestly think this is just a warm up for the teenage years. :) J
9/21/07 2:59 P
Shaylee is there too!! It all started on her 2nd b-day. She hates to get her diaper changed so we have to chase her around and then she fights with us while we're changing her. If she doesn't get her way, she hits and bites. I guess we have to start time outs!!! She is a very sweet and loving little girl though and those times out number the temper tantrums!!!
Shaylee Helena was born September 18th!!! I just can't get enough of her!!
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9/16/07 9:18 A
Oh Samantha is there. She's such a sweet lil' girl, kind to other children, great in front of other people but when she doesn't get here way..WATCH OUT!! We disipline her alot, she gets talked to about it alot and sometimes she will say I'm sorry, I won't scream, she knows what she's doing!! Now it's tough with the baby here, we don't want her to feel like she's the only one getting yelled at. She's never shown ANY jealousy and we don't want her to start!! *sigh* being a mommy is tough work, but the best kind there is:)
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9/10/07 9:14 P
It's just nice to know when you're not alone. :)
9/9/07 2:28 P
whats funny is jake is actually just coming down from his terrrible 2s, he started in January (100-12 tantrums a day, stages of hitting, pushing, etc) but is finally starting to calm down a bit (2-3 tantrums a day) it kinda nice...I'm sure the "trialsome threes - or whatever they're called) are on the way early 2. Hopefully this lul in the storm will last alittle while though :)
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9/8/07 3:47 A
for the last few months... and he's not two til october 2nd!
he does the same thing looks us in the eye and tries to do something he's not supposed to, be it unplug things, climb behind the couch, pull fluff out of the pillows by unzipping them, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, falls to the floor screaming and kicking. it's wonderful
Lukas - Oct.2/05
Kaiya - Oct.19/08
9/7/07 8:51 A
Jayden just turned two, and it feels like he hit the ground running with the terrible twos! He's a sweet little boy, but lately if he doesn't get what he wants, watch out! He's started throwing things, not out of anger, just to simply cause a rise out of me and dh. He'll find something, and throw it while looking us in the eyes. He's also started hitting and pushing. We do time out, and we try to focus on the positives more than the negatives (which is hard to do at times!)...I know it's a phase, but I wasn't expecting it right away. Is anyone else starting to experience the twos?
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