I just wanted to tell you that, as long as he is not on her birth cirtificate or have his last name or anything he has absolutly no legal rights to her at all he would have to do a dna test to prove shes his to try to even take her away. And if you do give him all those rights he can walk out of the hospital with her and you cant do anything to stop it. So reallly think about it leaving him out now due to his immature ways does not mean he has to be left out the rest of her life. Maybe later he will realize he messed up and then maybe grow up. Hugs and good luck.
4/25/12 2:28 P
I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I can't imagine how hard it must be to live your pregnancy alone. I don't have any experience of the sort but as I was reading I became concerned about your daughter's future. If he's threatening by saying you're an "unfit mother" it makes me think he's planning on taking legal action to have your daughter. I would just talk to a lawyer to get a professional opinion of what could possibly happen in the worst case scenario. I don't want to scare you but just so you're not caught off guard if he decides to go 'extreme'. The best of luck to both you and your daughter!
4/24/12 9:22 P
Hello Ladies!! I'm In Need Of Some More Advice And Would Really Appreciate If Someone Would Listen! Welp, Here We Go! As Of Today I Am 30 Weeks And 4 Days Pregnant With My BabyGirl Aleesia. I Found Out I Was Pregnant Dec, 2011 And Was Already 11 Weeks Pregnant At The Time. Well To Be Honest Before Anyone Thinks Rudely Of Me, Im Not Talking Down Nor Bashing My Daughters Father, It's Just The Simple Truth - Me And My Daughters Father Were Having Problems, Just Like Any Other Couple That Fights. Well I Ended Up Finding Out That I Was Pregnant During One Of These Moments And When I Called To Tell Him, He Was With His Friends And Really Paid No Mind To What I Had To Say, Just A Simple - Ok, I'll Talk To Yoi Tomorrow, I Gotta Go. Well Things Went Ok For About A Month And During Our Talk He Said I Needed To Adjust My Attitude And The Way I Was Or Else It's Just Not Gonna Work Out. (Hmm, How Rude Right?) But Just This Past January, 12 He Started Acting Distant And Not Himself. Everytime I Asked What's Wrong Or Tried To Do Something Nice - It Was Like It Was Never Good Enough For Him He Finally Decided To Break Up With Me And I Moved Out And Now Live Back With My Parents, While He And A Friend Now Live With His Grandmother. ( :-/ ) Ever Since We Broke Up He Chose His Friends Over Me, And Had Done Nothing To Be There Or Help Support Me. He's Threatened To Take My Daughter Away From Me Cuz I'm An "Unfit Mother". He's Also Called Me Every Name In The Book And Repeatedly Put His Friends His Needs And Wants Etc Before Me or The Baby. His Favorite Line To Use Against Me Everytime I Beg And Plead For Him Back Is "I Left You, Not Her" He's Only Been To 3 Appointments With Me And Is Always Either On His Phone Or Acts Uninterested To Be There, At All! I've Had To Name Our Daughter By Myself Cuz Everytime I Asked Him His Thoughts It Was Always "IDK" I've Had To Do Everything On My Own! So, Would It Be Wrong To Not Allow Him To Sign The Birth Certificate, Give Her His Last Name, Give Him Any Further Information For The Next 10 Weeks, or Allow Or Even Call Him When "It's Time". I Feel Wrong Thinking About Doing It But At The Same Time He Shows That He Doesn't Really Care - So I Feel Ok About It At The Same Time. Uggh, I Just Don't Know Anymore. I Can Only Stay Strong For So Long, But I'm Sooo Confused!!
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