having some pregnacy depression. please help

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MEGBOHEN
Posts: 55
9/9/11 2:19 P

As soon as you see that little boy's face you will feel this sense of relief that your child is healthy and happy! Besides - beautiful little girls need an older brother to protect them as they grow up. Get the rough and tumble boy up and running and then try for a girl.

CARRIECARRIO
Posts: 188
9/8/11 4:20 P

Hi, I dont know what I am having, it will be a surprise until he/she is born. However, I wanted to tell you that I think it's normal to feel that way since you had thought and imagined yourself having a little girl for so long.
It will not take you long until you become accostumed to the idea of having a boy and will start to love that and forget about all this...
Stay positive...You can try again :-)

REDILANZ
Posts: 33
9/1/11 3:37 A

Ok hello Lara1128
Think about it, you'll probably love the kid the same, especially when its born. Me at first I wanted a girl a boy is good to... Honestly I don't mind if its two in the oven... haha! I'm not sure what is going on with my body, have no clue. so I think you'll still love the child even if its a a boy. Think about it-- one day that kid will marry and eventaully bring around a girl of his own. I believe you can always try next time for a girl. :)

LARA1128
Posts: 24
8/31/11 11:36 A

thank you. I am doing a lot better.

LARA1128
Posts: 24
8/25/11 3:34 P

First of all please don't think badly of me, judge me or critizie me. I already feel like scum,

ok don't let your kids read this but way back when you were first pregent with your first kid or even when you were little and would play house and you pretended you had a baby what gender would you normally choose? Or just what gender did you always want? for what ever reason. Now i know life is funny sometimes we get what we want and sometimes we don't and sometimes we still do but we gotta wait for it. We learn to deal but its not always easy.

So how did you deal when you found out what you were going to have was the oppoisite of what you were hoping for? I know you love your kids now but when the doctor told you the news...how did you deal with it?

ive always wanted a little girl. Im girlie myself lol and ive always daydreamed about dressing my daughter up in cute dresses, us playing princess together ect. Well the other day i went to an ultrasound school for a free ultrasound and they told me it was a boy. Showed me the parts and everything. I still go to my regular baby doc in a few days and will get another ultrasound then I know mistakes can be made but i'm very doubtful. I told myself that i would be happy and love my child no matter what it was...but it has been HARD to get used to the idea i'm not having a baby girl like i was hoping specially when i see so many cute ones.I would look at boy stuff and try to think positive..but then i would turn and find myself down the girl aisle. Going thats cute! Oh wait I cant get that cause its not a girl. I tried to stay positive but all day yesterday i was crying from dissapointment and then from shame and how i was feeling. i felt like a HORRIBLE mother.

please has anyone ever gone through this? what did you do? How did you deal with the moments when you tried to think positive but then were face slapped with a challenged moment? Ive talked to therapists before with other things and i know what they are going to say and i dont think it will help. I really feel so alone here. i feel like i can't even talk to friends or family because of how badly i think they will think of me.

please help i dont want to feel this way for the rest of my pregnecy

thank you

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