So two reasons this is hard- all of my family are back East while we are living in Edmonton- second reason being his parents are here in the city, but do to a fallout that we had with his mother, the close relationship that I used to share with her has been completely severed... to be honest, I can truely say I no longer even like the women and if it wasnt for the fact that it would be unfair to my baby (due in Sept btw) and my husband... I would not even want to bother trying to continue attempting to communicate or see her. And it is not that I haven't tried. Believe me, I have. And leaving it to my husband to try and settled is completely pointless. So now her take, is not to own up to anything she has done (I have already sorted out my part in the fallout) she told hubby that she would rather forget about it and just move on. Move on?? How am I suppose to move on after such a huge betrayal on her part? And one of my exact lines to her was 'how am I ever suppose to trust you to not try and turn my child against me, when you are blantenly doing it with my husband!'. No reponse. I want anwsers. I dont want to just 'move on'. I am being civil. I emailed (it is how we mostly would communicate as we both have desk jobs) and let her know it was a boy since I know how hurt she was to be the last to know when her own daughter had her baby... but honestly, I could see myself keeping my baby from her in an attempt to hurt her the same way she did me, and I know thats not right. Comments? Anyone ever been in this situation?
Not to mention HUGE jealousy issues when it comes to plans of visiting my family over his- last Christmas I planned for me and my hubby to go down and visit my family and she nearly had a panick attack at the thought of her 'baby' not being there for Christmas... which btw, is hardly a celebration, it is rather boring and no one ever gets 'excited' to go... anyways besides the point. We use to live 3 streets away from her, and we sold our house and moved to the other side of the city... again, thought she was going to have a panick attack. Hubby is on my side but would rather avoid any confrontation of any kind, even if it means standing up for us, or calling her out on her lies... he would rather just move on as well. Im not the 'just move on' kind of person though. Not in this situation anyways... Help.
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