Life has changed significantly since we had out little angel. I can't imageine life without him and wouldn't want to. I don't even know what my husband and I did to pass the time before him. I've never been one who cares about expensive things, or trips, or new clothes, etc. It all sounds terrific and I wouldn't say 'no' if it was all offered to me, but that is not what life is all about to me. I just want to be happy and safe and fed and warm and with people I love and who love me. I like simple things. I don't want to feel greedy or needy.
Life is tough no matter what. We all have feelings that we don't want to have or wonder where they came from or how could we ever feel that way. The point is that we don't act on it. There is good and bad inside everyone.
Keep strong and share your feelings with us ladies because we understand and are here for each other. Cheers
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CAPTAINEDWARDS BabyPoints:939
Posts: 61
6/16/12 1:16 P
I was going to suggest you look into PPD, I guess you thought of that already. I've heard that can show up for up to a year after the birth of a child. There's so many hormonal changes still happening in your body, your brain may not have adjusted. I have no doubt you love all your children and want to take care of this. That will mean taking care of YOU too. Good luck.
"The Sovereign LORD is my strength; he makes my feet like the feet of the deer, He enables me to tread on the heights."
D_DOLLS
Posts: 186
6/15/12 2:32 P
Good God I hear you..... I really love my second daughter, and she is a really easy baby. This is a tough subject because it's something we never want to admit out loud.
When it was just me and my first born, I felt like a hip, cool, hands on mother. I did so many things with her and was able to give her my full attention. Then my second daughter was born and now I just feel tired and haggard. I can't do as much as I could before, everything cost more money, there are now Three people to take care of and keep happy, because DH may as well be one of the kids...
The worst is when my one precious daughter is now the brat I can't stand half the time due to the fact that now I have my second to take care of too.... I get so mad at her for things I never would have when she was an only child. I feel like the worse Mother sometimes. I don't want my girls to remember me as being mean. And I'm not mean for the most part, but I snap a lot easier these days.
Hang in there and I will do the same......
Her breath is my lullaby.....
JNO225
Posts: 800
6/15/12 3:20 A
Thank you to those who were supportive in your advice and responses. It's nice to know I'm not alone. I didn't even think about PPD this long after the birth. I'll give my dr's office a call in the next few days and see what she thinks.
Jennifer
mc 8/17/09 - 6 weeks pg
mc 5/8/10 - 4 weeks
BFP 4/1/11 !!!
It's a boy! EDD 6/27/07
Liam Thomas born 6/30/07
SOPHIE_BLUE
Posts: 408
6/13/12 2:01 P
I think most moms have that thought occasionally. It's so hard to be a parent some days. I look at my single friends who are able to go out to dinner, travel, hit the gym, read a book. I can do all of those things only with advanced planning and lots of negotiations.
I would also agree that jump from 1 to 2 is huge. A lot of moms told me that their life became infinetely more complex after #2. Everyone is asking us about second one and I just can't figure out how to manage this.
MARYANNEHUTCH
Posts: 6
6/12/12 3:46 P
I have these same feelings from time to time. My kids are 6, 5, 4 and baby #4 is due in January. My whole life my parents pushed education on me. I went to University got my undergrad degree and then received my Master's Degree. Now, I'm a Stay at Home mom. Sometimes I feel worthless because my whole life no one ever told me it was okay to stay at home...I was always being asked what I was going to be when I grew up. I have (very recently) decided to change my attitude about my education and making the decision to stay at home. This has been a growing process for everyone involved and I still struggle with my decisions daily.
LANKANVIRGO
Posts: 3153
6/12/12 9:52 A
These feelings you are having sound normal. Having kids is so hard and I remember going from one kid to two and it was like night and day...I remember seeing friends with no kids and thinking how easy their life must be and wanting that so bad. I never spoke to DH about it either...but my suggestion is maybe talking to your doctor about your emotions...it might be PPD. don't ever feel like you have to hide your feelings though...moms have such hard jobs and sometimes we're just too hard on ourselves. you know what really helped me was talking to other moms...are there any moms groups in your area...most of the moms I still talk to I met at the library, community centre or local park. Reach out and you will find that most moms feel the same way:)
* Maya *
JNO225
Posts: 800
6/11/12 3:00 P
Thank you Lil miss sunshine. I probably won't say anything to him about it. I know he's made comments (only half joking) that if we hadn't had kids we'd have more money a better house an could have done more traveling (we did a cruise for our honeymoon and a trip to Paris for our first anniversary and came home pg.) For whatever reason I'm only having these feelings about the baby, not DS#1. Maybe I just really didn't want start over again after so long (DS#1 is almost 5 y/o).
Jennifer
mc 8/17/09 - 6 weeks pg
mc 5/8/10 - 4 weeks
BFP 4/1/11 !!!
It's a boy! EDD 6/27/07
Liam Thomas born 6/30/07
JNO225
Posts: 800
6/11/12 4:42 A
I have a confession that I need to get off my chest... There have been a few times lately that I have looked at my second DS (6 m/o) and wished we hadn't had him. Life was so much easier/less complicated/less expensive... when it was just the 3 of us. I haven't told anyone including my DH that I've had these thoughts and don't know if I should.
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