I know exactly how you feel. My DS is almost 3 and I cancelled 3 appts last week, and my husband had to take off work today just so I can peacefully sit and think through his early childhood IEP meeting.
Im afraid we never get a night out, and if we do, we are usually called in early because my son is so strong and most have difficulty changing his diaper.
The best thing we are doing is doing multiple interviews with people who are interested in doing sitting 1-3 times a week. 2 weeks in and we still havent found anyone who knows how to spell Autism, more less what to do with them. Sometimes I would just like a day with my DD who is not on the spectrum, but I feel is always second to him.
Being a good mom isnt easy. Whenever your LO is taking a nap, eating lunch, watching a movie, step outside for a few and just enjoy the quiet. It refuels myself!
Life is a journey no matter how hard it may be. Embrace it now because the hurt won't last forever!
MAS661
Posts: 300
10/31/11 3:59 A
It is probably more common that family doesn't babysit often, I'm guessing. My siblings have never babysat for me, my Mom will watch my kids once every few months but it is usually for an appointment or something like that she has never babysat for my husband and I to go on a date.
CARLENA1236
Posts: 728
7/28/11 1:49 A
Not say it's okay or anything, but maybe they get overwhelmed with him. Or they are a little frightened with the words Austic and etc.
I have relatives that are like with my TBI son. We do need breaks, and it does get overwhelming...but no matter how overwhelming we have to roll our sleeves up and help our children. That's our job...that's what makes us great mommies....other people don't have so much invested. Know what I mean?
Hoping I exlain it right...it's late and my brain is foggy. lol...
DOTFALCON
Posts: 2
5/9/11 12:49 P
My husbands fam is like this- (ive got a very high needs autistic 5 yr old and could definitely use the help!) it is unfortunate and definitely not okay- when i think about it too much it is upsetting cuz it is not the way family is supposed to be, but i just try to respond well and not get worked up about it cuz i can only control my reaction to it... its dumb tho :( do you have any other support??? my fam is soooper supportive but they dont live in victoria :( i go to a pretty sweet church that is soooo good with my son (pastor even let him play on stage during a sermon and kept getting him to make his noises into the microphone-so cute) Good luck!
MAXMAMA77
Posts: 853
3/7/11 1:19 P
I shouldn't be negative, but I have family who have consistently put 100 percent into their church home, family, etc... than my ASD DS. It is driving me crazy! Even when I was pregnant with another DS, I had to beg them to help watch my DS (before diagnosis). They constantly were busy,and still are. I am so tired, I haven't been out with my DH in months, while they are doing this big church event-costumes, etc... I understand that it is good to help the church out, but what about your own flesh and blood? They have offered a couple of times to watch in the past, and have a nice place where my los can spend the night, but it is like once they do their babysitting 'chore' they are ready to watch the kids 4 mos later. I remember growing up, watching my sibling all the time, it would be nice to get a break. I also think my mom thinks I am lazy as I am a SAHM, and constantly makes me feel bad that I am not working. When I call, I seem to tick her off, and she goes " I am just so busy" etc... She always has time to go shopping, go on the boat in the summer or do this church stuff, but a few babysitting sessions are all that she seems to do anymore. I think my dad would be more helpful, but she always is so negative, she probably talks him out of the ordeal. Has anyone experienced this? Thanks
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