I agree with Blizzy and Joy. Since when did people start considering doctors and nurses and hospitals to be the evil bad guys? I have had 4 children IN HOSPITALS and my experiences were beautiful! There are a few insensitive nurses but people are people. These people deal with alot! I take my hat of to them. We know so much more about childbirth because of science and hospitals. Yes childbirth IS a normal but painful thing, and everyone will not have a smooth birth. You can experience complications whether you are at home, hospital, birthcenter, waterbirth, wherever you decide to deliver so why point fingers and villanize anyone? At any rate GL and happy healthy pregnancies and births to all!
Edited by: PATIENTMOM_E at: 10/3/2011 (23:45)
DAYDREAMSX6
Posts: 9
10/1/11 6:35 P
I agree with you joy!
LIND1241
Posts: 226
9/1/11 10:56 A
I agree with the previous two posters. Most nurses know exactly what they're doing and are wonderful to work with--but there's always that one nurse who says or does something obnoxious and makes the rest of them look bad. When my sister-in-law was in labor, the nurses were almost perfect, but when she went in for an emergency c-section, a few of the nurses were making comments about how my brother wasn't very supportive because he wasn't in the room for the surgery. Nevermind that my brother had passed out just from seeing the epidural--how supportive did they expect him to be if he was passed out on the floor AGAIN? Anyway, I think most nurses (especially the ones who are mothers themselves) get what women in labor are going through and are wonderful about it, but a few really need to work on their bedside manner!
TARAMOMMY
Posts: 358
8/30/11 1:33 A
One of the reasons I don't have my babies in the hospital anymore! One too many pain in the neck nurses for me. I know many of them are fantastic and helpful, but I've also experienced the opposite. Also I've done doula work and dealt with nurses in that regard and have found good and bad. I think they need to remember more that birth isn't just another day for their patient and they need to try to keep things positive so that women will come away with a positive memory of such a special and life changing experience.
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LILYZMOMMY
Posts: 26
8/5/10 11:10 A
My entire labor was pretty uneventful and quick, my water broke at 9am and she was born at 4:48pm, everything was fine until it was time to push. I pushed for 2 solid hours! You could see her head the whole time, so they were telling me I wasn't pushing hard enough. THere was this one hungarian nurse who was in my face with horrible breath and screaming at me the entire time to stop being lazy and just push!! Finally, at hour #2 the doc did an episiotimy(sp?) and out she came with one small push. Her head was twice the size of what you could see. It was physically impossible for me to do it on my own. I wanted so bad to slap that big bad breathed nurse. Actually, i don't know if smacking would have been enough...lol!
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TERESAROSE
Posts: 161
7/30/10 9:05 A
i feel sometimes the nurses think they know TOO much about whats going on with you and your body and dont want to hear any different. When i was in labor with my first i kept telling my nurse that i was feeling pressure and all she did was tell me not to push and that i was just checked not that long ago so it wasnt time. Needless to say after complaining A LOT and then having my husband do some too i FINALLY got checked and what do you know the next think she is doing is yelling telling my husband to press the red button and ask for a doctor ASAP. I think they just need to LISTEN every once in a while instead of making all the orders. If i didnt have the fear of something going wrongi would do home births . Oh & when the doctor came in his head was pretty much out & they were requesting that i "hold him in" ..... nobody was ready so he had to be caught with towels .
Beleive me i know not all nurses are this way and there are good ones. They just need to leave their issues at the door & work on the ones in the room . Most importantly LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN !
WANNAGOTOAUZZIE
Posts: 163
7/1/10 4:48 P
The nurse telling me to stop screaming sure wasn't an order from the doctor! It's true that nurses are professionals and do so much for you when you're in labor, but they are human also and some of them just aren't very nice or do things that are upsetting. We certainlt don't want to slap every nurse, just the mean ones! And when you're in labor the last thing you need is someone who makes the experience unpleasant or makes you feel angry or embarrassed.
BLIZZY
Posts: 35
6/14/10 4:19 P
I think that it's beneficial to remember that the nurses are professional and they see people in labor EVERY day. There is a reason that they are doing something, and obviously if they would explain their reasoning better, then people wouldn't think so little of them. Occasionally there are "bad" nurses, but they are all very smart,and know what they are doing. They also have no control over how fast or slow the deliveries go. It is just too easy to blame "the nurse," when so many other things factor into a Labor experience. Another thing to keep in mind, the nurses can't do anything without an order from the doctor, so maybe the blame is in the wrong place. Just my opinion. I hope all of your experiences are better next time!
WANNAGOTOAUZZIE
Posts: 163
5/18/10 12:43 P
I know what you mean! When i had my 1st baby I had an ememrgency c-section and afterwards the meds wore off while I was still contracting and I had a massive contraction that lasted for ONE HOUR!! I was screaming and crying, my husband was crying, they were chasing down doctors and givin my tons of pain meds for it. One nurse came in and said "maybe it's a blood clot" and started pushing on my stomach like she was giving my CPR! I screamed at her "Get away from me!" and shoved her hands away and she left the room. It was SOOO painful.
Then with my 2nd baby my labor was really fast and I didn't get and epidural and I was screaming and crying, and one of the nurses kept saying "stop screaming, it won't help anything" and I wanted to say "Ok, come over here and let me put my hands around your throat and squeeze and we'll see if that helps my pain!" The other nurse was great and super nice, but I wanted to throttle the mean one. I'm pregnant again and if I end up with either of those nurses again I will ask that they be removed, I'm NOT going to deal with that again!
RANDIJDAVID
Posts: 4
4/25/10 3:37 P
Well the topic explains my issue!
I am expecting baby #4 and again in a new place so i will be at a new hospital... but the first two were crappy! I have had the same problem every time... they don't listen to me!!! With my last child it was the worst... my nurse comes in to check me and tells me that things are fine and going great, wants to know if I want pain meds yet and tells me that my doctor will be coming in at about 2pm ( it is noon at this time) I say no thanks that I am fine, but I tell her that I am sure I can't wait till 2 to have this guy. She says no you can you are at a 6 and still very hard and only about 30% efaced. Needless to say that I could not wait and my son was born in the hour! He came down so fast and hit that he was bruised! 5 pushes and he was out! They kept saying don't push, don't push, but I had to and I knew I did... so they let me. It was a mess!
The nurses think that just cuz the average is 10 and blah blah that we don't know how we feel or that should be happening but I think that they should listen once and a while!!!
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