STEVENSMOMMY BabyPoints:4916
Posts: 1202
5/18/11 6:08 P
Callie is going to have just turned 2 when babe comes...so I get where you are coming from...
Diapers, Steven is STILL not potty trained (do i get the award for last child in diapers) so I have been changing them for 4.5 years now...going on 5 by the time babe gets here...unless he decides to train before babe gets here (wishful thinking).
I am not getting a double. I never got one with Callie, I wore her and Steven went in the stroller...now, they share it taking turns b/c neither one wants to be in it all the time but they still need little rests...for things like fairs and the like we have a wagon that we take with us...we got one from a tractor supply store that is awesome and works the best.
I think the key for me will be planning..ie right now we get shoes on 25 mins before Steven's tae kwon do starts...that gives me time to load both kids in, drive there, park, get Callie into the playroom and Steven to his room...at first I am going to plan on an extra 15 mins to go anywhere...just b/c you KNOW something always comes up when you have a newborn (like spit up or a blowout) right when you are walking out the door.
Mel
Steven
10/3/06
7lbs 2ozs, 20.5in
Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome
First open heart surgery 10/5
Second Open heart surgery 10/17
Heart Cath with Ballooning of Aorta 1/30/07
Third Open heart surgery 2/21/07
Heart Cath with Stints in Left Pulmonary Artery
8/15/10
"half a heart, not half a life"
Callie
7/27/2009
LORIMOM4
Posts: 5623
5/18/11 11:20 A
My kids are a little farther apart in age...2-2 1/2 years but they were all excited to have a new baby....make it fun for them, include them in u/s, talk to them about the new baby, maybe let them pick out a special something for the baby to bring to the hospital when the baby is born, etc. I had my kids make a card for the new baby...it was fun and I still have them. I also had the new baby bring the kids a present when they were born....so when they came up to the hospital to meet the new baby, I had a wrapped gift for each of them from the baby. They loved that! Big brother big sister shirts made them feel special....just anything you can do to make them feel involved, even at Abby's age....paint your belly, etc. if they feel this baby is a part of the family an addition, and make it exciting for all of them, it will help eliminate most of the jealousy etc. Let them help as much as possible. My kids wanted to hold the new baby a lot...we had a rule...they could haold the baby any time as long as the baby was not sleeping and they had a grown up help. I never told my kids they had to be quiet when the baby was sleeping etc. that way baby learns to sleep thru noise and they do not feel like the baby is "ruining" any of their fun! LOL You will do great....you are a fabulous Mommy and your kids will love the baby!
I always know...
God won't give me more than I can handle
There are times I just wish he did not trust me so much!
JENNIESJOY
Posts: 5068
5/17/11 1:29 P
I wouldn't worry about jealousy! Honestly, I would imagine the older kids are, the more aware they are of everything- including the attention they're missing out on :) All my older ones just looked at the baby like "what is this thing?" and then moved on. As long as I still made time for them and gave them tons of praise- and let them feel like the baby was theirs to be a part of etc- it was all good. Annnnd I have all clingy babies. The hardest part was being in the hospital to give birth away from them- but in retrospect, enjoy the break. Abby will be fine while you're gone and truly, she'll be alright when baby comes. It may mean a few less newborn snuggles, but just be aware to carve out that time with Abby still when baby is fed and happy (ie let someone else hold the newborn and hold Abby) :)
Good luck!
NIFERMOMMY
Posts: 35437
5/17/11 1:11 P
I bet Abby will per"adjust and be a great "helper"
I wore Lauren and pushed Korey in the buggy or stroller. When Lauren was too big to wear I put her in the stroller and Korey held my hand and had a harness leash thing on as back-up.
I'm worried about Landon when this baby comes. He is excited to be a big brother but he is such a momma's boy!
Jennifer
JENNIESJOY
Posts: 5068
5/16/11 10:27 A
You'll do great!! There's 15 months between Isaiah and Micah and 20 between Micah and Sophia. I love it. I mean, it gets a little crazy, so be prepared to give yourself lots of grace.
As for a double stroller, I use mine, but not all that much. However, when I use it, it's in places where I can't imagine *not* having it if that makes sense. We got ours off of craigslist and I highly recommend doing that too if you can find one. Because they are great. But are they worth hundreds of dollars? Eh, I don't think so.
Also- when running errands, park closest to the cart return so you just plop the youngest 2 in the cart and not have to cross the lot without holding all the hands. It's a little tip, but it's makes a difference. Isaiah likes "helping" me push the cart and while with all the kids in, there is little room for, say, groceries, lol, it works.
Well I'm being pulled away... I'll write more later if I think of anything. But really- you'll do amazing!
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ZSERABEAR
Posts: 13196
5/16/11 2:57 A
I am on the fence about getting a double. I wore Abby in the wrap or ergo the first 9 mos so after that I just used the umbrella stroller. I rarely used the stroller with Lyla either.
Noah 7/8/03
Lyla 10/7/06
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TEESAK
Posts: 5830
5/15/11 10:37 P
I have the Sit-n-Stand and it's pretty heavy, but nice. Honestly, I never use the stroller unless we're at an amusement park or somewhere flat. But, when Sam and Carolina were both really little, I used it a lot more. Or I would use a carrier and then a single stroller - that was actually my preference.
You're gonna do great!! Sorry I don't have any more advice. I can understand your concern - I had it for Sam and Carolina too. They are one year and nine days apart! Granted, we got Carolina when she was almost two, but it was still hard.
Sam has Brugada Syndrome, a heart arrhythmia. He had a defibrillator implanted at 11 months old and another surgery to fix the defib Aug 18 this year. Ask me about it sometime.
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ZSERABEAR
Posts: 13196
5/15/11 9:48 P
Thats how I felt when Abby was born! Lyla was 3.5 and had been potty trained for 2 years! Although I babysat my nephew so I changed his diapers but still. You kinda forget what having a baby is like. Is Abigail excited about being a big sister?
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Lyla 10/7/06
Abigail- 2/28/10
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BETH81392
Posts: 8131
5/15/11 5:29 P
I have no advice ....sorry I was telling a friend today that I ahve not changed a diaper in over 3 years. It is going to be a whole new world for me!
Beth
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"I know of nobody who is purely Autistic or purely neurotypical. Even God had some Autistic moments, which is why the planets all spin."
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ZSERABEAR
Posts: 13196
5/15/11 4:32 P
Abby and this baby are only going to be 19 mos apart! I am pretty freaked out by this, ha.I have never had two in diapers or anything. Just hoping you ladies with little ones close in age can share some wisdom so I can keep my sanity! Thanks girls :)
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