Jenna, if Tyler turns out anything like you, I will be very proud. ;-) I hope and and pray he pulls it together. He gives us glimpses of hope here and there. Sigh. One things for sure in our caes.....just because we aren't doesn't mean we can't! It's not too late to be a dr. ;-) good for you on going back to school for nursing.
MILOBRI
Posts: 13224
6/22/11 11:48 P
Hmm...he kind of sounds like me.
Straight A's in high school. Pianist for the choir. National Honor Society. Salutatorian with kick bootie speech at graduation and full ride to the local community college.
AND THEN...pregnant my first year of college! (Abigail) Pregnant again my second year of college at age 20 with Micah. Have him a month after turning 21 and THEN before I know it I'm a college dropout for 2 semesters. Then I change my major because it's too tough with all the changes in my life now, move a couple times, get married, go back to school and yep, you guessed it, get pregnant again!
I wouldn't trade my kids for anything, but dang did I ever screw up the order in which things should really be done in life! I thought I was going to go to med school and be a doctor! I had almost all of my science requirements done in the first year and got dang good grades...until I got pregnant. Then everything got screwed up. I failed developmental psychology....online...how does a person do that?! Ugh, anyway. I'm 25 now, I finally have my head on straight again. I did get my bachelor's degree, but it's NOT what I want to do. So, I'm back in school...for nursing...and I'm an awesome student again! Aced the first 2 tests and preparing for the 3rd!
Anyway, I guess my point is....even good, smart people can get off track for awhile, but I'm sure he'll get his act together! I feel bad for my mom because I know she thought I was wasting my potential and was sad to see me making the choices that I was. But, no one screwed up but me. She's always been a great mom.
I hope that makes sense! It just reminds me a lot of myself. I'll be praying for Tyler!!
Jenna
*Abigail Rose - 8/15/05
Born to Heaven @ 21 weeks
*Micah David - 9/27/06
6lbs 8oz & 21 inches long
*Logan Alexander - 11/16/08
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Briar Elliot
10/8/10
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DANNI2006
Posts: 8397
6/20/11 8:34 A
Thinking of you and your family! Hoping your son figures things out soon...
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JENNIESJOY
Posts: 5068
6/20/11 6:26 A
Wow, I can't imagine those years... I feel for you.
My gut feeling is that he'll turn around from his ways and figure things out. But like Zsera said, don't be hard on yourself when he makes bad decisions. It sounds like he really just doesn't know where or what he wants to do in life yet.
I don't know... I don't really have any advice since I'm not there yet with my kiddos :) But you are a great mom and you gave him a good foundation-- Believe he will make good decisions soon (at least for your own sanity!! wink wink). (((hugs!)))
TINKOS
Posts: 6018
6/17/11 9:50 P
Just wanted to update and ask for continual prayers please. I swear I may start a support group for parents who want to throw their arms up in the air with their lost just left home kids. Sigh. I was so naive at how hard this age is and what it would be like. Tyler flunked out this last quarter and will not be returning to OU. Instead of going to his dads like he had planned, he threw us all a curve ball and moved to Dayton with his girlfriend. It's like he's purposely making bad decisions one after another just to get under our skin. I'm trying to keep good relations but making it clear we don't approve. My prodigy son. Sigh. And of course I'm doing the whole what did I do wrong? What could I have done better? The situation is causing a lot of strain on John and my relationship too. Thanks again for the prayers.
LORIMOM4
Posts: 5623
5/23/11 4:03 P
Tina, I know this post is a little bit old but i am praying for you guys...hope things have improved! You are such an awesome mom! HUGS!
BTW...I miss you!
I always know...
God won't give me more than I can handle
There are times I just wish he did not trust me so much!
LITTLEBEAN24
Posts: 6800
5/3/11 3:57 P
I'm praying for Tyler and also your sanity!!! I'm dreading the teenage years!
Hope you're doing well despite. =)
.*Lindsey
.*Taylor Lynn .*October 11, 2006
.*Baby Boy (scheduled c-section) May 20, 2011.
TINKOS
Posts: 6018
5/3/11 3:33 P
Please say more prayers for Tyler. He's super sick with bronchitis and high fevers laid up feeling like crud and his gf dumped him. He is miserable. I hate seeing him physically and emotionally miserable like this. Hopefully something positive will come out of it and he will find his way closer to God in all his lows! (as that's what I think he really needs)
JENNIESJOY
Posts: 5068
4/8/11 6:56 A
Still praying, Tina.
TINKOS
Posts: 6018
4/6/11 9:15 A
Thanks for the prayers! Please continue. I haven't heard from him in a few days again. Aye. Yes. He's in Athens at Ohio university. I'm hoping to go for moms wkend but can you believe these stats? condem sales and arrests are greatest on moms wkend! Where is he going to school? He mentioned the recruiter again but I think the reason he didn't enlist already is from the style of partying. That's great with his history of collapsed lung. He's at high risk for the left lung collapsing with can put pressure on his heart and kill him. I really hope and pray he finds his way before something happens or I have a heart attack. It's so frustrating as he's a good smart kid with so much potential! Not to mentioned he was raised so much better than this!
ZSERABEAR
Posts: 13196
4/5/11 2:37 P
I will be praying. I'm sure its hard not being close enough to see how he's really doing. Hopefully he will get it together and concentrate on school and such. (((hugs)))
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JENNIESJOY
Posts: 5068
4/2/11 7:29 A
I agree that's is so good he's acknowledging it. Like Caryn said, keep praying and loving up on him. He'll find his way.
CARYNMB
Posts: 5969
3/31/11 9:26 A
Oh Tina, I will be praying!! I went wild in college, even though I was brought up in a Christian home, my Dad even a Pastor. Fortunately I eventually found my way back... but I think only because my Mom never stopped praying for me! Keep on praying for him and loving him... and we will pray along with you!
~Caryn~
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MOHUSKER
Posts: 15144
3/30/11 12:33 P
Oh no! Hopefully since he acknowledges he is having a tough time with his new found freedom he will be able to change. I remember my first semester at college I was pretty bad but I was able to straighten myself out and I turned out pretty good (at least I like to think I did ;-)
Lori
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Liliana Michelle born 9-21-06
Tyson Dean born 12-7-09
TINKOS
Posts: 6018
3/29/11 9:57 P
Thanks so much for the prayers. Some of what I said must have sunk in as he mentioned in a text he went to a counseling session today. I see glimpses of hope but it's very dark and gray. Sigh. One thing I'm learning, the bigger the number, the bigger the problem.
JACOBYJUNK
Posts: 4675
3/29/11 9:39 P
That's great he's being so open with you and the decisions he has made. I can only hope my kids will be that open with me! I will say a prayer for you guys, I can imagine what a diffucult time it is for you. Thinking of you!!
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MILOBRI
Posts: 13224
3/29/11 12:28 P
Prayers going up! I agree with Missy. It's good that he's acknowledged that it's a problem. I hope he can get straightened out soon and find some good, well-to-do friends. College can be tough with new found independence and various influences.
Jenna
*Abigail Rose - 8/15/05
Born to Heaven @ 21 weeks
*Micah David - 9/27/06
6lbs 8oz & 21 inches long
*Logan Alexander - 11/16/08
9lbs 10 oz & 21.5 inches long
Briar Elliot
10/8/10
7lbs 11oz & 2
MOOSMONKEY
Posts: 13950
3/29/11 11:58 A
Yikes, Tina. I'd be worried, too! Prayers will be said for Tyler!
It is great that he has acknowledged the issue. He could brush it off as nothing and continue the partying. I understand some partying may happen when kids go away to school (and that thought TERRFIES me) but it sounds a bit excessive here.
Hugs! Keep us posted. I'll pray for all of you! :)
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October 14, 2006
Harper John
November 19, 2008
TINKOS
Posts: 6018
3/29/11 10:24 A
Could I bother you mamas for another prayer request please? I believe in the power of prayer and I've been worried about my oldest son. He's asked me not to say anything so I haven't mentioned him much at all but...its getting bad. We were blessed (and surprised) he chose to spend his spring break at home. He's had some depression issues, and now gotten into the wrong major at school - partying - serious partying. He's sooo smart but his gpa dropped from 3.2 to 1.4 - that much partying. He asked John to take him to talk to a recruiter while he was here. He's finishing out this yr at OU but I told him he needs to change schools next yr or join up. Hes at a cross road right now and mixed up with bad influences. I've been praying he'd meet a good Christian friend and get involved with campus crusade or something. On a positive note, at least hes acknowledged and is trying to make the change. But oh the stories I could tell!!!! I swear I'm completely gray now! I thought it was supposed to be easier when they grow up and move out!!! (twitch twitch) Your prayers are most appreciated!!!!!!!
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