I can see your zero tolerance policy reasoning, Beth. I have the "negotiator" on my hands as well and what usually ends up happening is he goes into time out until he'll do what I asked. . .
I would have to say 4 is much more challenging then 3. My easiest age was from 1 - 2, ahhh my baby! LOL
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BETH81392
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11/29/10 8:24 P
We have gone back to zero tolerance policy. Honestly it is rough, but every time she tells me no she goes into a time out. Then she does it. Or else goes back to time out.
Me sticking to the rules has really helped! I think I was giving her the easy way out through conversation and arguing.
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CARYNMB
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11/29/10 4:23 P
Oh I'm so glad I'm not the only one!! I thought maybe it was because of the baby... but I guess it is just an age thing. I thought that 4 was supposed to be so much better than 3?!
I like your ideas Renee... but like Jennie, I can see how Carter would turn that one around if I asked him what he thought the answer was... he would say, "No Mom, I asked you a question!!" Then I answer him and he says... "Nuh-uh!" I can't win!
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JACOBYJUNK
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11/29/10 1:43 P
Zachary will be like that too sometimes. I'm not loving 4 either. THANK YOU for this post because I thought Zachary was the only one acting like this! He is sassing back lately too and has never done that before. I HATE it! And don't know what to do about it because we don't talk like that to each other so I'm not sure where he gets it from.
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JENNIESJOY
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11/28/10 7:13 A
Renee- I do ask him what he thinks a lot, and that works sometimes. But many times then it turns into a "No, I'm asking you, you need to answer me!" thing. Or I'll go over the sound of the letter and ask if he hears it in the word or name. Again that sometimes works, but usually he finds a way to still be mad, lol! Sigh... He also likes to argue about the season we are in... just silly stuff. I have stopped trying to show him the right way. He will figure things out eventually. Right...?! hehee
TINKOS
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11/28/10 12:36 A
I love how Jax asks a question then tells me why my answer is wrong. What is that? I was thinking he learned it from having a teenage brother but maybe it is an age thing. UGH. Do we ever get a break?
GRACERENEE
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11/27/10 9:45 P
4 is definitely an irrational age isn't it? I don't even try to reason with Nikki when she is like that, it just doesn't get me anywhere!
Jennie... have you tried asking him what HE THINKS? Like "Mommy is there a W in Paige?" YOU: Hmmmm... what do you think buddy? Is there a W in Paige? If he says "yes there is" you might say, "Well that is an interesting way to think about it" or something similar I would not even correct him if he thinks that there is. Some day he will figure it out... haha!
Nikki is going through a stinker phase right now. Yelling and being mouthy... so not like her. It's driving me nuts. :-\
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JENNIESJOY
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11/27/10 6:23 A
I'm right there with you both, too. It drives me NUTS! It gets to me more than his other whines etc. He loves to spell, for example. We have a wooden letter set and he lines up his letters to spell words and names of his friends. Well often he has it in his mind how to spell something but he'll still ask us. Like yesterday he asked if there was a W in the name Paige, one of his friends. I said very nicely, no, it's spelled p-a-i-g-e ... and he FLIPPED. Nooo! There is a W!!! And so on. It's constant. I usually wait till he calms a bit and then explain that he cannot speak to me like that, etc etc. But it continues to happen. I just hope and pray it's a phase that will soon be over. I'm half afraid to answer his questions b/c it can lead to such a meltdown or tantrum.
So I don't really have any advice, but I could relate to everything you wrote, Caryn. (((hugs)))
CARYNMB
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11/24/10 1:56 P
Anyone else dealing with a know-it-all 4 year old? Oh it is driving me crazy!! I swear about 20 times a day, Carter tells me I am wrong about something. He thinks he knows everything and I know nothing!! I don't know how to deal with it. When I correct him (because he's usually wrong!) he gets so frustrated. He is such a perfectionist too. Has to be right all the time. Boy he is so much like his mom and dad! ;)
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